Sufferer Tired of feeling alone - people around me don’t understand

[Carlotta1234]

New to the group- have been suffering with PTSD for 9 years from 3 car accidents and an abusive emotional friendship for 5 years. Struggling as people around me don’t understand why I do what I do and it feels like I constantly get triggered and let my anxiety get the best of me. Looking for support and resources to help me.

Tired of feeling alone and judged

 

[Riley Jones]

New to the group- have been suffering with PTSD for 9 years from 3 car accidents and an abusive emotional friendship for 5 years. Struggling as people around me don’t understand why I do what I do and it feels like I constantly get triggered and let my anxiety get the best of me. Looking for support and resources to help me.

Tired of feeling alone and judged

Welcome to the group! I'm sorry to hear about the traumatic experiences you've been through and how it has affected your life for so long. It can be incredibly difficult when others who haven't experienced trauma don't fully understand the impact it has on our thoughts, behaviors, and emotions.

You've come to the right place to find support and resources. At myptsd.com, you'll find a community of individuals who have firsthand experience with PTSD and CPTSD. Connecting with others who have gone through similar experiences can be instrumental in feeling understood and less alone. The members here have a wealth of knowledge and understanding, and they're always ready to offer support and lend a listening ear when you need it.

While the journey of healing can be challenging, I would also encourage you to seek professional help if you haven't already. Trauma-focused therapy can provide valuable tools and techniques to manage your anxiety, navigate triggers, and develop coping strategies. A therapist can also help you explore and work through the emotions associated with your traumatic experiences.

At myptsd.com, you'll find various forums specific to different topics related to PTSD and CPTSD, such as coping with triggers, managing anxiety, and understanding the effects of trauma on relationships. Feel free to explore these forums and participate in discussions that resonate with your experiences. Sharing your own story and connecting with others can be therapeutic in itself.

Remember, you are not alone in your journey. There are people here who understand and empathize with what you're going through. Take it one step at a time, reach out for support when needed, and know that healing is possible.

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the forum:)

There are folks here who will understand.

 

[arfie]

hello carlotta. welcome to the forum. you are most definitely not alone.

personally, i'm kinda grateful the people around me don't understand. ptsd is one of those experiences you can't understand unless you've lived with it and i solidly hope my friends and loved ones NEVER understand.

i would never wish this understanding on anyone, but i am eternally grateful for the therapy peers who DO understand. it takes a village to live a healthy life. it's good to have more than one door to knock on for the diverse needs of my life.

welcome aboard. i hope you find stabilizing companionship here.

 

[Carlotta1234]

hello carlotta. welcome to the forum. you are most definitely not alone.

personally, i'm kinda grateful the people around me don't understand. ptsd is one of those experiences you can't understand unless you've lived with it and i solidly hope my friends and loved ones NEVER understand.

i would never wish this understanding on anyone, but i am eternally grateful for the therapy peers who DO understand. it takes a village to live a healthy life. it's good to have more than one door to knock on for the diverse needs of my life.

welcome aboard. i hope you find stabilizing companionship here.

Thank you so much for your kind words. It’s hard at times when you feel like others can’t understand that you never mean to intentionally upset them or hurt them… but your fears and insecurities lead you astray.

I am hopeful this companionship provides me some support in these rough moments

 

[Freddyt]

Welcome @Carlotta1234 !

I am hopeful this companionship provides me some support in these rough moments

That's among the things we do. The community also helps you learn how to deal with the day to day stuff better too. The Social forum is fun when you have trouble connecting with people and give you a bit of a social life.

 

[arfie]

It’s hard at times when you feel like others can’t understand that you never mean to intentionally upset them or hurt them… but your fears and insecurities lead you astray.

it's hard at times, no matter what the ambient factors like effective support, etc. it is no joy ride on the best of days. hard it is, but it is eminently manageable.

even as a bumbling student, i find studying the higher art of making amends has aided in my recovery more than any other single tool i have tried. it helps on more levels than i can type. studies ongoing. . .

 

[Friday]

Welcome.

 

[ptsdjedi]

New to the group- have been suffering with PTSD for 9 years from 3 car accidents and an abusive emotional friendship for 5 years. Struggling as people around me don’t understand why I do what I do and it feels like I constantly get triggered and let my anxiety get the best of me. Looking for support and resources to help me.

Tired of feeling alone and judged

You're not alone anymore. I totally understand, I felt misunderstood and alone for many years until I was finally assessed for PTSD and was subsequently diagnosed. As a result, I received trauma-focused CBT, the treatment without a doubt saved my life. I hope you are able to access the treatment you need and can connect with more people who can understand what you have been living with.

 

[Paul007]

New to the group- have been suffering with PTSD for 9 years from 3 car accidents and an abusive emotional friendship for 5 years. Struggling as people around me don’t understand why I do what I do and it feels like I constantly get triggered and let my anxiety get the best of me. Looking for support and resources to help me.

Tired of feeling alone and judged

Hello I recently was diagnosed with delayed onset PTSD and trauma flashbacks and now fight or flight symptoms are the worst to get through all this I had no idea of symptoms and thought I was having heart attack etc even now I see therapist and they don’t give information about the pain and hurt and change it brings to life and what you do each day ,I’m the same way as u mentioned i got advised to keep mind busy constant with things to keep busy to take mind off dark past memories and control and so now every day I’m looking for things to do in house things that are not needed to do and always cleaning and on phone for no reason and other people think what the hell ?
But that’s my process even though I overdo it as if I’m bored and trying to watch tv etc the past comes from nowhere just pops in my head and doesn’t leave then overthinking it feeling the physical and mental pain/hurt but 10 times worse like It’s happening now so night comes and wow it’s hard terrifying in silence and alone overwhelmed mind and body then got to sleep as I live with mother now and feel bad if Ive got light/tv on and she’s asleep, hate to leave the house seeing neighbours etc I feel so much judgement and I sometimes don’t talk to anyone or even say hello for months so I’ve contained myself but this is what happens you start to believe your the only person who can trust and others don’t know what I’ve been through so I wear a mask to them and push the hurting part of me down inside which makes triggering easy as others just see someone that’s acting out the ordinary not aware of my past trauma and abuse etc ,others probably don’t notice me or care but PTSD can make u very vulnerable I feel ashamed and embarrassed and frustrated and sad depressed and talking to others or my impression on others my mind is telling me to avoid this because they haven’t been through it and they don’t live with it so even when I talk about feelings try to offload to mother she doesn’t want listen to my pain so it’s bottled up so isolation sets in then now I’m lonely and sad because of all this it’s a vicious circle I want to find a partner that I can trust and talk to and be myself with not living with mother and feeling a burden and feeling they are using you for sympathy when it’s my suffering my pain and I need the empathy, I’ve earned the right to own all the “PTSD nightmare!” Without the judgment just people not working against the symptoms / helping me listening to my story I’m the one in this situation and to cope with the symptoms understanding others show is a major factor
I know if I stay here in room alone day after day without any change it’s counterproductive to PTSD dealing with other people’s opinion or what they say or don’t know about my hidden past ,when I already have this to deal with ,others don’t understand that because I don’t complain or show emotion or open up to strangers ,mothers neighbours and friends I’m wearing my mask I show the person they want me to be to make them comfortable and mother but inside I’m bursting with emotion and all this on my shoulders just for me to deal with I know what your going through but I don’t want to hide and worry about all this it’s just depression also because of the stress and anxiety and loneliness I know if I had someone i would be able to be myself I wouldn’t care about all I mentioned just care for her and her hopefully me and cope together helping each other with love and compassion not misunderstanding and others pressure like now but for now I just have to hope and keep going, I hope this helps and it feels good to talk to someone sorry if I’m rambling on