Feel Like Therapy Helps But Too Painful To Wait For Next Session

[Bird33]

@Junebug yes I understand it is the point but sometimes it is very difficult and it would be easier maybe not to have therapy so you don't have to go through it each week.

 

[Tinyflame]

it would be easier maybe not to have therapy so you don't have to go through it each week.

That is what I meant @Bird33 , just mine is not based on attachment (unless trust etc is part of that?, Idk).

Because it's so difficult, painful, devastating, & because I can look back & identify what I was doing when I felt better & stronger compared to that, I can say an important part was the gentle, positive uplifting stuff. Like immune boosting versus chemotherapy, does that make sense?

 

[Bird33]

@Junebug it does make sense sorry I misunderstood you. I think trust can be a part of that though.
I think if we could find something that helps us heal and allows us to grow without totally breaking us down is the best thing. The problem though is so much comes up in between but not just because of therapy alone. The nightmares and flashbacks. so I guess I just have to plug along because either way it will be hard. At least I will have someone to go through it with.

 

[Tinyflame]

Exactly @Bird33 , that is what I think & find too.

Except for this:

At least I will have someone to go through it with.

I feel badly to think it/ I drag someone through the mire. I have to suffer or be affected, they shouldn't.

 

[Bird33]

I understand @Junebug i do feel badly at times too about that. I am actually a therapist too, I really enjoy helping people and don't feel it is a burden so I can see it from both directions.

 

[Tinyflame]

Oh wow @Bird33 . And I am a care giver. How hard to apply any care or healing to ourselves. :( Someone said today the negative feelings etc we apply to ourselves we will likely direct at others. I find it the absolute opposite (for myself).

:hug:

 

[Bird33]

@Junebug i find it hard to care for myself and I can help others but find it hard to help myself! I can see the problems others are having but have a difficult time seeing my own.
I don't think the negative feelings are at all directed to others. I think it only makes us more empathetic! I really feel for people and I think I can truly understand. Do you?

 

[deleted]

I have such a hard time with this! I start counting down the days as soon as i leave his office! T and I joke about how I should just live there! Have you talked to them about calling/texting/emailing between sessions? Or adding another session for the time being? My T texts me about halfway throug the week to check up on me and I can call him anytime. This has helped me sooo much! Best of luck to you!

 

[Bird33]

@Katiee_co she does allow me to email, text or call her but I don't like to do that because I feel worse if I do. I am not sure why. I know it is an issue I have. Whether I feel like I don't deserve it or she really does not mean it. Do you call your therapist often?

 

[KitKaplan]

I know the feeling but when stressed i use a lot of other people because i use emdr. This week my step daughter was reported for abusing my grandson and i moved him and my sister (his caregiver) to upstate ny. My wife of 14 years blamed me for reporting so while i was gone she changed the locks and got an order of protection. I cant ever go back there. I own half the house and have no money for a lawyer. I cant wait to see a therapist. I think about my wife all day long missing her. Im in shock and actually have 2 phone therapists and will see one this week for emdr

 

[KitKaplan]

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@Katiee_co she does allow me to email, text or call her but I don't like to do that be...

can get a text therapist on line and call lifenet.nyc for free counseling

 

[Bird33]

Thank you @KitKaplan I didn't know that they had free therapists that you could call or text.
I am so sorry to hear about the troubles you are having. I think you did the right thing though but I am sure that does not make you feel any better. Hang in there and stay in the moment. Just take one moment at a time, that's all you have to do right now.