Relationship More To My Mixed Up Toxic Love Story

[Becksknox]

@Whispering_Truth oh he's a charmer. It'll come out soon with his alcohol abuse and inner anger that is so out of control.

I actually feel bad for her because she is so much younger than him and he will destroy her too

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

@Whispering_Truth oh he's a charmer. It'll come out soon with his alcohol abuse and...

It is frustrating for guys like me, who would give anything to have a woman who was supportive, understanding, and loyal. I'm sure there are many men and women on this forum who need someone like that. It just seems like all the jerks end up with the best partners. :/

 

[Gadgie]

Aye! Your right, there must be a lot of lonely people on this site, and I have found this site to be great for breaking the ice, and talking (well you know what I mean) to new folk.

As if I meet people face to face for the first time, I get all flustered and start to stammer, it's embarrassing for me, and must out them right off, and they end up feeling awkward.

 

[Becksknox]

@Whispering_Truth You have no idea how badly I want that. All I've ever known is abusive relationships. Through counseling I've figured it out and I now know what it's like to have a healthy relationship. Prayers for us both.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

A healthy relationship can exist if both parties are honest and have good personal integrity. Just because one or both parties has a mental illness, it doesn't mean that great relationships cannot be had. Depends on the people involved, and they need to meet in the center. Personally, I have a loooong history of picking the wrong people..

 

[Becksknox]

@Whispering_Truth I may have your long list beat! LOL. I've never picked a good or kind person but they are always charmers to begin with and I get snowed every time.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

@Whispering_Truth I may have your long list beat! LOL. I've never picked a good or...

My mistakes are always picking broken people that I want to "fix". In a perfect world, someone would be appreciative for you taking so much time and energy to try to help them heal. But, sadly, despite your best tries at negotiating, they end up abandoning you for "greener pastures". Then, a few months or maybe a year later, they find out that the pie they wanted wasn't so sweet, and they want to come back. But, my trust in them has already been shattered, and once that happens, there is no repairing it.

 

[KwanYingirl]

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

 

[Becksknox]

@Whispering_Truth You do exactly what I do, but I think people see me as vulnerable bc I am nice and caring almost to a fault. And trusting. It makes me want to give up altogether.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

@Whispering_Truth You do exactly what I do, but I think people see me as vulnerable...

Those qualities are gifts, and are great to have. That is how the world was originally meant to be. But, unfortunately, it can also be a beacon for abusive, manipulative people. People who are tender hearted rarely have it very easy, in this world. :/

 

[Becksknox]

Yes, you're right. It hurts to be crushed so much though by the ones we love the most. My therapist told me the other day how incredible my loving heart was and she said it's rare, but I said I hate it bc it just leaves me ripped apart. I've chosen the broke people for so long that I have no idea how to not.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

Yes, you're right. It hurts to be crushed so much though by the ones we love the most. My therapist to...

I understand. Over time, I had to let myself get angry about how I had always been treated, and forcibly harden my heart some, for my own protection. Though, I would much rather simply be myself..