Addicted To Pornography Online

[Joey Padula]

I disagree grama herc completely. view the original post and you will understand

 

[cragger65]

I've always had the attitude that NOTHING is inherentely unhealthy - alcohol, food, sex, gambling whatever it be. It's when we come to rely on them overly jsut to function, as Anthony has said. That can become problematic whether in a relationship or not, just from a mental health stand point, I believe.

I do agree with an earlier statement about positive endorphins. This is both the very healthy plus, and the dangerous left hook.

 

[anthony]

but what the hell does any of this have to do with PTSD and why has it been allowed on this site. I am very disappointed in you Anthony for allowing this to continue.

Ummmm... it has everything to do with PTSD and is quite the legitimate question IMO. Many with PTSD suffer addictions... porn is just one of those addictions, and there is nothing wrong with talking about it. This forum does not exclude sexual topics if they are relevant to PTSD / a persons personal experience with their PTSD. This very much suits.

I agree with Joey...

 

[Malkanthi75]

I'm glad Anthony has cleared that up because I was wondering my self. If i really thought I have a few addictions.

 

[midi]

I have to say that I believe this thread belongs here because we can use anything as a tool to avoid what has caused our PTSD. My Ex used internet porn to avoid his PTSD and bipolar. I used internet surfing to avoid my PTSD.

 

[Mercy]

However, I do think the prevalance of it in our society is incredably damaging to many people and many relationships......particularly the young women who are in the industry..........

I am certain that several of the women in the porn industry are sexual abuse survivors and sex is being reduced to an animalistic behavior that I'm certain, can be detrimental to many men out there. Especially with the new advent of violence in these films, violence against women as a means of turning on is becoming almost acceptable.

As a child sex slave/prostitute I was in many movies before the internet came along. Reflecting back I can see a pattern of ever increasing violence against girls and women. It strikes me that an addiction is where the user/ viewer needs more and more extremes to get 'it off'

Snuff, where the girl or woman "appears to die" during a sexual act, is true in my childhood experience. Those women and children never moved again. They never got up to put on a dressing gown or spoke again. As I got older I learned that they were dead....

TLight Quote" There are too many perverts out there and this is just creating and condoning their behavior."

That is what I fear. At home alone is one thing. Acting out violence linked to sex is quite another. Seeing and hearing and self gratification can lead to obsessive thinking. Thinking can lead to fantasy(no problem) and can lead to more and more violent fantasy speaking. Speaking can lead to action. Violence begets more violence. I'm pretty sure that my point of view is affected by my life's experience and I may not be seeing the whole picture. But it scares the horse pocky right out of me........and it hurts so so much just to know it's out there. What will be in the minds of the men my daughters date????

JMO I guess I feel if you wouldn't stand in the same room to watch, then you shouldn't be watching it on TV or internet. If you would stand in the room and watch it then you need some help. I'm sorry if I am stepping on anyone's toes. It is so so sad and so hard to have to remember what it was like to be forced 'into the business'.

 

[TLight]

Mercy;
I was not in 'the business' as you........but our experiences as objects of others sicknesses are very similiar...........I agree with you completely. Pornography can very very destructive and it needs to be modulated.........perhaps only allowing forms that involve true gentleness and love between the 'actors'.....for marriage enhancement.............all this other stuff out there is only serving as evil in this world. I terrifies me.

 

[onebravegirl]

Looking back, I would consider myself to have been a sex-aholic in the past, using surface level pleasure to bury my feelings.

Very intresting. I often wondered about this for myself when I was "younger". I had this very strong impulse to seduce every man around me. I then learned that I resented my fathers control over me as a child and this was a way of shaming him. Feeling desired by men and then being in charge made me feel less afraid of men. Short lived sort of satisfaction ultimatley.
I was denying my right to be appreciated. Porn doesn't allow for the viewer to feel appreciated. Perhaps part of Porn addiction is not feeling valuable enough to offer anything to a person in the real world.
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[somerandomguy]

Mercy;
I was not in 'the business' as you........but our experiences as objects of others sicknesses are very similiar...........I agree with you completely. Pornography can very very destructive and it needs to be modulated.........perhaps only allowing forms that involve true gentleness and love between the 'actors'.....for marriage enhancement.............all this other stuff out there is only serving as evil in this world. I terrifies me.

I wholeheartedly disagree with this. The first thing I ask when someone says "X" needs to be regulated is, "Regulated by who?" I don't know who else would have the authority to regulate porn other than the government, and I certainly don't want them telling me what I can view or not view in my own house. It's bad enough that they regulate marriage, IMO.

Mercy: what happened to you is absolutely terrible in every sense and the bastards who are responsible should be made to pay, and pay, and pay. This is a really emotional issue, but I'll just say that the answer isn't to ban or regulate porn. It's to find the bastards who force others into it and lock them away for good.