Moving Forward With Sexual Difficulties

[cherryblossom]

Does the book you were using tackle that subject?

Perhaps you just need to keep re-experiencing it, to lesson the trigger, and allow you to move on.

 

[Lucycat]

Progress!!
Don't let Rory read this he'll kill me:hot:!!

2 days ago I awoke in the morning to feel his erection.I actually said to him ' ha ha ha you're thing has gone hard again'.
Dismissed it and went about my day.

Later that same day I was thinking about it and it struck me, that it was the child in me that had reacted to the situation. I put my 'child' up to deal with an inappropriate situation. I answered like a child, used childlike language and effectively ran away.

So this morning same situation. I thought 'no child here'. I asked myself what was wrong as I felt those familiar feelings and the answer that came into my head was the usual ' I don't like this'. But I told myself this was still an answer from a child. Not good enough. I needed to tell myself what I didn't like about it. My next thought was 'I am scared'. I decided that is OK. I am allowed to be scared.

I was able to stay with that. I can be scared. It does not mean I have to stop.

To cut a long story short........In conclusion a great success.

To Rory's horror I texted my therapist and told him. His reply was brilliant. It is therapy for him to know that my therapy is so successful! and then I bumped into him, not once but twice later in the day:oops:. He could still see me beaming:)!

It has been really good, not just for it to have gone well, but to be able to see why and to have been able to talk this through with Rory:whistle:.

And at least I haven't posted on Facebook!!:bounce::bounce:

Yet.

 

[cherryblossom]

Progress!!
Don't let Rory read this he'll kill me:hot:!!

I can't stop him reading it!! You did invite him to join - remember?? :laughatyou:

I can't imagine he cares that you've told us here. It's a success, and progress. You should both be very proud of yourselves :p

Keep up the good work, and keep enjoying each other. We just don't want to hear all the details, every time okay :lmao:

Seriously, well done to both of you.:thumbsup:

 

[Lucycat]

Sadly progress is always followed by a kick in the teeth.

Last night I had a bad dream, and woke up feeling utter disgust with myself. It was only a dream and did not reflect reality, but I don't like the route my mind takes when I am asleep.

I texted my T. who said my mind is still just processing everything and every now and again will throw up something like this that means it need to be dealt with. So next week I get the dreaded headphones again. EMDR.

 

[Hlost]

I'm so sorry. But that doesn't dismiss the success you had, not at all. This is surely something I struggle with as well so I'm very happy to read that you moved forward as well as you have :) I have to admit that I have been putting it all on the back burner :( so it is good to see your progress and bravery.
Hugs,
HL

 

[Nyx]

Well done, Lucy! It was really brave of you to analyze everything like you did and... as they say... keep on keepin' on!
And although you dread EMDR, you also know it's good for you. You're brave and strong, you'll get through this too!

It's really wonderful to hear you are making such progress - hard work does pay off :)

 

[WonderingWhy]

- hard work does pay off :)

Nyx,

I beg your pardon, you spoke incorrectly!

She did say it was "hard" but I don't think it was "work" she was speaking about! JK ROFL

 

[Lucycat]

:oops:

 

[cherryblossom]

Now now ladies, keep it clean please :p

 

[Nyx]

WW, I never would have guessed..:oops: Still, you have to agree that sometimes it really is hard work until it's hard no more :rolleyes:

 

[Kay C]

Please do get the book.
It would be really good to have a 'buddy' who is working through the same exercises etc. Would you do that?
There are some things that I think 'I'm not sure what that means' and it would be good to get another opinion.

hey Lucy, I got the book and have just started reading it. Would love to discuss with you, and anyone else who's reading it. Maybe we can start a SSA Book Club! ;)

 

[Lucycat]

Hey, that's good KC. I must admit I have rather put the book to one side while I have been working on other issues, but I will get it out, dust it off and see where the next step is. Thanks for reminding me that I have forgotten my target here.