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I am not sure if I understand the porn part, (all the anonymous stuff is hard to keep track of who the OP is, sorry) except that maybe now without porn, the mind is creating some fantasies...
There's a lot of talk about sexuality on here, but butt play doesn't have anything to do with being gay. Many straight guys like butt-play.
So maybe the image is disturbing (the self-sex part).
But I kind of identify, like when I hallucinated. I talked to someone I trusted about it and they asked me how I felt about it. And why I thought it was happening. And then ideas about what I might do about the why. And the hallucinations went away.
If it is a fantasy you are disturbed about, maybe the fantasy itself isn't "wrong", but you feel it is?
Or it is an intrusive thought because it is unwanted. But why? Maybe you feel the desire is wrong?
I duno. Again, hard to sort out if there's any trauma related to this, but I'd sooner identify the desire as ok, and the imagery as a particular manifestation of a desire.
End result: A butt plug or other butt toy is a cheap, fun way to try something and it doesn't require anyone else. Just research and play safe.
My apologies if this is unhelpful or disturbing. It was just my reaction to the OP and my sense of the details.
There's a lot of talk about sexuality on here, but butt play doesn't have anything to do with being gay. Many straight guys like butt-play.
So maybe the image is disturbing (the self-sex part).
But I kind of identify, like when I hallucinated. I talked to someone I trusted about it and they asked me how I felt about it. And why I thought it was happening. And then ideas about what I might do about the why. And the hallucinations went away.
If it is a fantasy you are disturbed about, maybe the fantasy itself isn't "wrong", but you feel it is?
Or it is an intrusive thought because it is unwanted. But why? Maybe you feel the desire is wrong?
I duno. Again, hard to sort out if there's any trauma related to this, but I'd sooner identify the desire as ok, and the imagery as a particular manifestation of a desire.
End result: A butt plug or other butt toy is a cheap, fun way to try something and it doesn't require anyone else. Just research and play safe.
My apologies if this is unhelpful or disturbing. It was just my reaction to the OP and my sense of the details.
