Relationship Setting Boundaries?

[Dallas]

We must first put our own oxygen masks on, before we can help others...always.

Sincerely,
Dallas.

 

[Nicolette]

As I mentioned previously, you really don't know either of us.

I would suggest that you remember by posting what snippets you do share on a forum then members can only respond on the information provided. To turn around and then make that a judgement of them is not fair if they are basing their response on what is written - which is what is happening here.

If you don't want input don't post.

 

[monicaelise]

I'm sorry Nicolette, I do want input, but I would appreciate it if a poster wants to give me input that they at least post the entire sentence, and not the bits that just make me look bad. The quote in question is, quite literally, half the sentence. I'm more than happy to hear what others have to say, and welcome most input, but I don't think it's the least bit unreasonable to assume that it's given on the basis of what's actually been said, rather than some small piece of on sentence taken out of context. Thanks!

Also I haven't passed anything but positive judgment on the poster you're referring to. I don't agree with the posts, and I do believe I am entitled to disagree with the posts. I think you're a little confused about who is being judged here. Again, my request here was for help in setting boundaries. I've gotten several great suggestions. Telling me to dump the man isn't among them.

 

[HollyB]

I'm sorry Nicolette, I do want input, but I would appreciate it if a poster wants to give me input that they at least post the entire sentence, and not the bits that just make me look bad. The quote in question is, quite literally, half the sentence. I'm more than happy to hear what others have to say, and welcome most input, but I don't think it's the least bit unreasonable to assume that it's given on the basis of what's actually been said, rather than some small piece of on sentence taken out of context. Thanks!

I've read all of your threads on the whole, and it's on that basis of everything you've posted that I formed my opinion that you should not be in a relationship with this man who is suffering from PTSD. You assumed my opinion was based on one statement, when in fact, it was based on several - in fact, everything you've posted.

Good luck.

 

[monicaelise]

Duly noted. Your suggestions will be given just exactly the consideration they deserve.

 

[Nicolette]

Okay ladies this is now bitchy and it stops here and now. Thread closed.