When you want to die why do people try and stop you?

[Snowflake]

when you want to die why do people try and stop you?

 

[Scarlet13]

Because people care.

 

[scout86]

In that situation, when I've tried to stop someone, it's been because I didn't think death was their only option, and I thought it would be a waste, if they had the chance to consider it from a different time and place. And, sometimes, because I'd miss them if they weren't around.

 

[anonymous]

Because they want you around to be their f*ckin robot

 

[Deleted member 37474]

Because they want you around to be their f*ckin robot

Why would you write that? Do you really feel that way?

 

[Neverthesame]

I think it's because they don't understand how you feel.
I also believe it's a transient understanding for those who have been there but aren't right now.

The idea of wanting to die makes no sense. Life is so precious and fleeting, why would you want to end it?
This is how I feel when I'm doing well.

When I'm not doing well, dying makes perfect sense. The idea of wanting to live makes no sense.
Why would I want to carry on with this painful existence, life is short so what does it matter if I go early, who'll even notice?

I don't know about anyone else, but these two opposing thoughts never hold the same weight in my head. One makes good logical sense, the other ludicrous.

When I feel like dying, someone trying to tell me that "It'll get better." "Life is short" "Your loved ones care for you" "You need to make the best of it".
All of it sounds stupid. To the point of being insulting. Having been where they are, I can understand that they mean well, but it makes no sense.

On the other side of the coin however. It's opposite. I understand that a person who feels like dying, really feels lost and hopeless. That death is the only thing that can bring them peace. But right now it makes no sense. It probably will again one day, but not right now.

Empathy is as we are all aware, the ability to see the world through another's perspective. As much as people try to do this, some things may be too alien to really comprehend.

Unless someone has been there, I don't think it's something they can even begin to imagine, let alone understand.
So they go with what they know. Survival.

That, and they really will miss you. Not to mention there really are more options. They are just hard to see right now.

And no, I don't think they want a pet robot. If they did they'd just get a real robot, as they don't need to be fed.

 

[The Albatross]

Because it's a permanent solution to a transitory issue that can be remedied and hurts yourself and the people who care about you.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think because they do care about you @Snowflake .

I had a member here tell me once, when people don't care/ are angry etc, they will tell you, there will be no doubt. I find it true, apart from friends or acquaintances or dates, and even with frIends and occasions I don't want to be a 3rd wheel, I haven't had maybe 2 sit-down meals in 12 years with a family member, nor celebrated a Christmas or Thanksgiving or birthday, or even received a card or well-wish or I love you or hug.

Virtually my whole life for some of them. Though one relative will hug me or give me a kiss when she goes on vacation if I see her.

They wouldn't say such things.

How did your treatment go? Re: the breast cancer?

Xox :hug::hug::hug::hug:

 

[EveHarrington]

Because they love you and it would destroy them if something happened to you.

 

[Snowflake]

I think because they do care about you @Snowflake .

I had a member here tell me once...

Treatment went well now just lots of follow ups

 

[Deleted member 37474]

@Snowflake, Are you asking this question because you are facing cancer, suffering and tired of the fight, sickness and pain?

 

[Snowflake]

@TexCat -I had cancer almost a year ago. I'm doing EMDR on a memory and I hit a land mine this week and had a breakdown -yes I wanted to kill myself. I have no support system except my therapist and I just am struggling.