Reality Checks Needed - tenant situation

[Muttly]

today is the day she is supposed to vacate. she gave me notice a few days ago she'd be gone but the trailer couldn't get towed until this weekend. I said ok. there's been more... issues, like garbage, yelling and stuff but on the bright side they do keep working. In fact they are there now. And I am actually feeling sort of guilty right now. I feel stretched taut.

I am seriously close to a meltdown and I don't know how much has to do with the tenant situation and how much has to do with the fact I am apparently going to be seeing my T tomorrow to process some memory stuff. I didn't exactly agree to the appointment. T sort of forced it on me. I mean, I know I could just tell her know but since that's very much out of her norm I feel like I need to pay attention

 

[scout86]

I am seriously close to a meltdown

Can you think of a good distraction? Preferably something that's takes you away from home for the day?

All of this is stuff that's going to pass. It's also stuff you can't do much about right now. Which leads me to one of my favorite Monty Python quotes, "And now, for something completely different."

 

[Muttly]

So, when I went to bed she was still here. Now it's the 6th and now much over there has changed. I don't know if she's there but the trailer, van and stuff is. I know I need to reach out and be absolutely clear that it all needs to be gone by the end of this weekend. I don't want to deal with her. I don't really want to deal with life.,,,

Sorry I'm being such a whiner.

@scout86 I really appreciate all the support you've given. I did find a distraction last night but it wasn't a healthy one. Now I feel worse.

 

[Ronin]

I don't want to deal with her.

Reminds me, is there anyone IRL who could aid you in dealing with her?

Not a whiner, buddy.

I did find a distraction last night but it wasn't a healthy one.

Got through the night, is what counts. Quite proud of you.

Which puppy makes you happiest, these days? (Thinking if them could be distraction / thinking of them would. No worries if not & if that is work & not distracting.)

 

[Friday]

Sorry I'm being such a whiner.

You spelled ‘winner’ wrong :P

Doing the right thing rarely feels right. It feels hard and horrible more often than not. Because in order to do the right thing? You have to be dealing with wrongness. Ideally, that’s not something a person has time to get used to. So it feels f*cking dreadful. Good on you, Muttly.

 

[scout86]

I kind of like the idea of recruiting someone to deal with her. (Hey, I once hired a LAWYER to talk to my brother. Some of the best money I ever spent!)

 

[blackemerald1]

Well if you have documented & got a copy of your 'requests' for her to leave I'd now drop by your local court house & have a informal chat to the registrar about the process for getting a trespasser off your property. If that's not helpful yeah 10 mins with a lawyer or drop in to the local police station & ask. Or the council office. It need not cost a lot. Just being able to speak to her about your next step (as a warning shot across her bow) may be all that's needed now.
You are doing well Muttly hang in there!

 

[Sideways]

Counting down the days!

 

[Muttly]

I wish I knew someone who could help me with this... then again, you all have been giving awesome support.

So, all sorts of activity has been happening and today they were working on the running lights for the trailer when I got home from work. I was feeling under the weather. (Not enough sleep, etc) and went and tried to take a nap. I actually fell asleep and didn't have nightmares (yay!). When I woke up, the people were all gone but the trailer and her car (not sure it runs) were still there. So. I contacted her. the trailer was still hooked up to power and water. Her car has had an extension cord running to it from the trailer for over a week. it doesn't go to the engine, not sure what she's charging in there.

She said that they would be towing the trailer and moving the car monday, I said I thought they were moving the vehicles this weekend and she said that they weren't able to get the temporary move permit. I said ok, but inside I sort of crashed. I just... I need them out. I need to know there is an end. then she said, well monday or tuesday, depending on her work boyfriends work schedule.

And for once in my life I got angry. (Well, ok, more like angry alter came out but whatever). I said "no". I said it had to be monday. And that in the mean time, as she was no longer living on my property that I was disconnecting the water and electricity. She told me the power needs to stay plugged in until the trailer gets moved. And then immediately said that "it's not being used anyway". She then said how she could be f*cking around not leaving and why was I giving her attitude.

So I told her she's still following the same old pattern. First I gave her a month's notice (not a legal one) and two months later she was still there. Then I gave her 20 days legal notice and that got extended through the weekend for the vehicles. Then she tells me monday and as soon as I say monday she says monday or tuesday. And that clearly the trailer was using the electricity that *I* pay for because otherwise she wouldn't be telling me it needs to stay plugged in. And that I need her out of there.

then she gave me a whole lot crap about how she's doing her best and yada yada yada and that's where it's left.

I work all day tomorrow. Monday, I guess I'll start investigating how to get unwanted (abandoned) vehicles towed from my property, so that I can have that knowledge in hand for whatever comes next. I do know that when she gets pushed and thinks it will be enforced, she does follow through. The legal eviction notice is what finally got her moving off my property even if it has taken more than the 20 days.

I just... maybe this is lame but since they show up at no regular or predictable schedule, day and night, to work on the trailer and vehicle I feel like I can't relax. Like until the vehicles are actually gone know they can show up at any point. And yeah, the worst that they do is be noisy, leave garbage and block my driveway but... ugh. Don't even know what I am trying to say.

 

[Friday]

She then said how she could be f*cking around not leaving and why was I giving her attitude.

Tow the f*cker.

 

[blackemerald1]

Monday, I guess I'll start investigating how to get unwanted (abandoned) vehicles towed from my property, so that I can have that knowledge in hand for whatever comes next.

^Yes that's what I'd be doing. Even if it's just a couple of phone calls. Maybe even do it sooner...

I do know that when she gets pushed and thinks it will be enforced, she does follow through. The legal eviction notice is what finally got her moving off my property even if it has taken more than the 20 days.

^So.. then you know that she's trying to push you to your limit but when you do pull her up and persist she caves. That goes in your favour... not hers. So well done you. :) But possibly she's really stretching you as far as she can now.. so disconnect that electricity. Shut the gates & shut her down. No more discussions and extensions...

I feel like I can't relax.

^No.. I can see why too. I would feel just the same. You only ever tried to sell a trailer and this is what happens... good grief... Muttly - I'd be puzzled too. It's not your fault that she's a scammer and that you have been kind, considerate and patient...

Your good nature is not something to be ashamed of.

Like until the vehicles are actually gone know they can show up at any point.

^Well yes - unless you get them towed or report them & somebody else tows them. Essentially whilst they are there and they have access to them... they will keep coming back.

Does the council stick a Notice of Abandonment on vehicles for seven days before they tow them away? Maybe a sticky notice on the windscreen or doors by a Municipal officer/Sheriff is all that she really needs now?

I think if you make some noise at your local Council office they might love to hand a fine out to her?

And yeah, the worst that they do is be noisy, leave garbage and block my driveway but... ugh.

^But even still... this is your home, your property and you didn't invite her and being noisy, messy and thoughtless is a problem and very few ppl would consider it otherwise. So I can understand how this is all adding up.. She's a pain in the ass...

Don't even know what I am trying to say.

^You are fed up with her, the trailer and all the 'problems' she seems to so willing to drop on you?

Honestly, disconnect the electricity and anything else. Call your local Council or Municipal authority and start the reporting process. This is your land, you do have a say and even if nothing is done till Monday you may feel better that you are taking back control.

 

[scout86]

Well done! Granted the stuff isn't gone yet, but pause and give yourself credit for speaking up.

she said that they weren't able to get the temporary move permit. I said ok, but inside I sort of crashed. I just... I

Huh? I don't know what these vehicles are like, exactly, or what the rules are where you live, but, where i live, you don't need a "temporary move permit" to move a dead car or a trailer designed to be pulled by a vehicle. You might need current tags on the trailer but she's had plenty of time to do that. If she's not gotten around to it, she can risk hauling it without tags.

the trailer was using the electricity that *I* pay for because otherwise she wouldn't be telling me it needs to stay plugged in

I'm sure you're right about that. No idea what she's doing but I'd unplug it and block her access to electricity if possible.

feel like I can't relax

I'd feel the way. I hope they're gone SOON.