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Sufferer Well I'm Pretty Sure My Best Friend Drugged Me And Then Who Knows What Happened?

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First instance he drugged me I just recently had a flashback and remembered the whole thing.

Im a college student and have a best guy friend, he invited to his place asking for help with a project I needed a break after my finals were over and was relieved to get out of my house. Sam my friend asked me to watch a movie with him I had no problem we had hung out dozens of times. Sam offered me an orange drink . I got the drink immediately tasted that is was salty and had a strong alcohol flavor I told him I no longer wanted it and asked for water which he gave me. Next minute what happened next is unexplainable. I lost all balance and could not stand, sit or even lay still, I just rolled around. I was trying to ask him what he gave me but my speech was slurred I started speaking a made up language any ways as I was rolling Sam got on top of me and told me how beautiful I was. He said wow you can't hold liquor at all. I ran into his closet but still could not control my movement. Finally I was able to gain control of my body

Sam threw me on his bed and pinned me there when I tried to talk to him he told me how he always wanted to know what my body felt like. I thought he was joking he was my best friend. We had played I wrestled in a pool before. But he had never kissed me. I told him to stop I don't think of him that way. Next he pinned me to his bed. I was there a good 20 minutes waiting for him to get off of me. I needed to use my phone and call home saying I would be late. I opened a blind in Sam's room and he went crazy he threw me against a headboard and said don't turn on the light. I was like "Sam what's wrong with light I need it to find my phone". He said I hate light. I thought he was joking and got up again when I headed toward the blind he threw me into a weight and onto his bed this time he held my arms in a way I could not move. I passed out in this state. When I came around Sam was still on top of me and I could not move.

I still thought he was playing a game than I felt something strange in my head it was Sam having me give him a hand job against my will. I pretended i had not woken up well I could not talk or move any ways just feel what was going on I could see nothing. Sam started to finger me. At this point I muffled a scream for which he covered my mouth. I no longer trusted him. I finally was conscious able to talk to and move and asked Sam if I could use the restroom he said only if he was on the other side of the door. I asked why I had to guarded and he was like "EJ im your friend I won't hurt you". I obliged as I did not want to pee myself. I finally got to go home in the morning.


I never remembered this or I would have never gone to study alone with this guy a second time.

I needed help studying for physics Sam got an A in physics so he said he would help me. I struggled with a physics problem for 20 minutes and sam looked at it for 12 minutes did not help me and went online. I kept trying to figure it out. He closed my books and said he needed a ride somewhere. I said ok not a problem where are we going he said he needed a ride to a party. We got to the party and there were 7 guys hanging around a glass coffee table. Sam introduced me and said she is our guest of honor tonight. I asked him what he meant and he said I would not have to pitch in for liquor. I was fine with that.

The time was 3pm I had to work the next day and wanted to get home at like 9pm so I could work in the morning. I told him I could drink a beer but when I said it was over it was over and I would need water to sober up. I know my limits I drank 3 beers over a 2.5 hr time frame. Than I went to the restroom. We were playing a card game but I forgot what. I returned and asked for water said I had an hour to sober up but I needed to go home. They brought me water in a tall glass. It took several minutes for them to bring the water to me. I thought this was because they were intoxicated.

A guy across the table asked me If I had ever done drugs. Sam said guys she is a good girl she does not do that. I answered no I have not and the guy started laughing and said that is too bad and started laughing. He asked if I had ever been drugged and I answered why? I said no. They said just curious. At this point i lost all sense of balance a table was brought closer to prop me against a couch with a guy on either side of me till we finished the card game.

Sam said lets bring her in that room the light is not bright there as I had a violent headache and the light was bugging me I obliged. Sam said well lets play questions while we wait for more of the party to show up. I was so drunk or so I thought that I had no problem playing this ridiculous game. Each time you answered a question with more than a question and no question could be repeated you had to lose an article of clothing socks and shoes counted as one item. This is where the trouble began the guys started to ask me impossible questions or questions that were sexual in nature I had no clue how to respond was quickly down to just my underwear and bra. This is the last thing I remembered.

The room started spinning really fast I suddenly got extremely tired and could not keep my eyes open or had control of my body even a little anymore I passed out. I awoke to some guy next to me fully naked. I was fully naked also. Matt the guy next to me was making out with me. When I saw he was about to rape me I tried to scream and he shoved his tongue down my throat it felt good but I did not want to kiss him. I kicked him as he tried to enter me and made him cry. I started looking for my clothes. I had only been in this room but my clothes were scattered everywhere around 3 rooms.

Matt says" we diden't want you to hide that gorgeous body so we hid your clothes" "Good luck finding them". I was appalled and went looking I found all but my shirt. Than finally found my shirt 3 rooms away. Matt went aww fun is over. I ran out of the room. I found Sam in a group of about 20 people. They were not there previously but the music was blaring. I pulled Sam off to the side to explain I wanted to leave since I was his ride he had to leave also. He said I was drunk and to drink some water. I got out my cell phone and was going to call my friend. The water arrived and I drank all of it. I was so dehydrated and my mouth was dry. Than I passed out right in the kitchen.

I have no clue what happened but I woke to find my pants removed my friend Sam on top of me. I was like Sam did I take off my pants "he said yeah you were hot". He said dude last night was so much fun I asked him If I did anything with any of the guys? and he said no he protected me" I started to feel safe and asked Sam where my phone was he said I have no idea dude. I was like "Sam this is serious I need to call off work I don't feel well." He said well Ill help you look. I asked him where my keys where knowing full well they were taken from me when I said I was leaving. He said wait till the hosts wake up. I fell asleep on the couch nothing more I could do

When I woke up Sam was on top of me having my hand down his pants. He said EJ we have sex right now. I said you are not my boyfriend and I am not a friend with benefits. He said aww come on dude. I told him no. He kept pressuring me till I go so sick of it I said fine Sam but you have to wear a condom. He was like there is no fun in that can we have anal since you want to stay a virgin. I said no. He was like its fun I said no. He said well I don't have to wear a condom if we have anal and I said Sam I have no interest in that. And before you ask no blowjob either.

His friends finally woke up and I demanded my keys. I never wanted to return to that place. I dragged Sam to my car and said you can stay or go but I'm leaving I don't want to be here. Sam said he needed to get home. As we were in the car Sam handed me 6 dollars and said EJ you need to eat. I was like Sam I feel sick the last thing I want to do is eat he kissed my cheek and said well take this money. I feel bad and if you don't eat your going to feel worse than you do right now trust me.

I drove home. I have no clue how I don't even remember doing it thank God I was not in an accident or have gone off a cliff. I got home layed down and projectile vomited into a pot I brought into my room. I went to sleep and did not wake for hours which is not normal for me especially in the daytime. The light was so bright it hurt me. I woke up in a cold sweat. I started seizing I had never had a seizure before I was so scared. I fell back asleep though I could not keep my eyes open. I fell asleep for the next 12 hours.

I continued vomiting for the next 3 days and finally felt normal again. I have not trusted a single guy since this. Now, Sam won't stop texting me . I had my number changed but he somehow got the new number. He keeps asking me to hang out. Study, party. I told him only a public place of my choosing. He is like don't you trust me? I said I do but my Dad does not trying to get him to see it my way. He declined. Well the phone calls brought back the memories minus the missing pieces. I'm pretty sure I was raped but have no way to be sure. How could my best friend drug me? Also I am positive my water was laced with GHB in hindsight.
 
Im looking for help remembering things that I don't remember i.e. the blank periods when Im assuming I was spiked with GHB and passed out. I truly want to know what happened, there were 7 guys when I was awake and I was the only girl other than the host. I figured with memories I'd have closure and my nighmares and questions would be answered. Anybody know how to recover memories?
 
Hypnosis is one tactic. That is going to be pretty brutal though. GHB is serious stuff. I was drugged by a date and raped. I have never tried to remember it.

I hope you have people in your life you can talk to.
 
Don't take offense to this as I'm not "blaming the victim". You are leading him on by saying you'll hang out with him in public. You agreeing to see him tells him that you are ok with what happened. He's an ass and you need to be firm with him. He drugged and sexually abused you. You didn't remember so he took you to a gang bang party and did the same all over again with a group of his friends. Get away from him any way you can. Block his number or change your number again. Get a restraining order if you can.

Oh, and in my experience, the guys you can't trust are the ones who try to guilt you into trusting them as he has. Truly trustworthy guys don't have to convince others to trust them. Their actions show they are trustworthy.
 
Be careful about pushing yourself to remember things you are not ready to remember. I agree with Lizio. They (especially him) belong in jail. Consider the effect on you before you do anything of course.

Keep away from this person. He sounds seriously dangerous and manipulative.

I have probably been drugged a few times but sadly I don;t think there is anyway to know things for sure.
 
I disagree that you are leading him on and telling him what happened was okay by agreeing to see him in public. None of this is or ever will be your fault. If he thinks you are okay with what happened because you are agreeing to see him that is SICK and that is on him. He should know better. NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT.

I concur that you should stay away from him, and I hope you find a way, any way, to do so. But if you can't, for whatever reason, it's still NOT YOUR FAULT.
 
I am sorry this has happened. I think he does belong in jail and he will probably be doing the same to other girls. He should be reported. Otherwise others will go through exactly the same thing. It is a horrible thing but reporting him now will save others. And I bet there have been quite a few. This guy will not know any better because he has no moral conscience. It is not your fault. Get away from him and report him so he can be stopped.
 
Nothing you did was your fault. Absolutely nothing. You did nothing wrong. I, too, strongly disagree that you lead him on by hanging out with him - that is utter victim blaming crap.

NOBODY deserves to go through what you did, doesn't matter what happened leading up to it or in the aftermath. A person has a right to walk down the street stark naked and know they are safe. Being naked doesn't entitle anyone to assault you, just as being female doesn't entitle any man or person to assault you. And hanging out with him in the aftermath doesn't entitle him or anyone else he's associated with to assault you again.

YOU. DID. NOTHING. WRONG. I just want to stress that. And while I agree that these guys deserve to be reported, it's not for me or anyone else to decide how you want to deal with this. I know first-hand how difficult and terrifying it is to work out whether to report assault/rape/abuse or not - the police are supposed to protect and serve justice but the law often pins the blame on the victim rather than the perpetrator/s, which is f*cked up but unfortunately true. It's your choice whether you report it or not, and you are not a bad person or in any way to blame if you decide not to.

The most important thing is that you are safe and that you are looking after you. Good luck with everything. And I also agree to not force yourself to try to remember too much right now. The fact that you were drugged is obviously going to impair memory, but it's also possible that your mind has blocked some of it out as a coping mechanism. In the instance of the latter, you will start to remember more details once you've processed some of the trauma you do remember. Remembering too much trauma all at once can actually be detrimental to your health, both physical and mental. Just take it easy, take care of yourself, be kind to yourself. *offers gentle hugs*
 
The reason I want to know what happened so badly. I am a virgin or was I have no clue now. I just really want to know what happened.

Why did Sam think treating me like this was ok. I seriously thought his friends drugged me till I had that flashback and was like wow Sam did it Sam did it. Now Im beating myself up inside. How did I not see his true nature. How did I call him my best friend and share everything with him. Most importantly how do I cut all ties with him.

This happened about a year ago. I'm about to move a new city and go to a new school so reporting it truly seems pointless wish I were smarter during the actual incidence however I felt so sick! I was lucky I could even make it to my bed. This is the only clue I had for the longest time I was drugged the side effects I experienced at home. I just want to trust guys again. One bad apple should not spoil a bunch. Plus I honestly have no clue what happened I heard echoed voices and passed out. Its all black from the time I passed out to the time I woke up. I also wish I knew where this house was cause I would have all of them arrested for kidnapping ie taking my keys and my phone so I could not escape.

That is neither here nor there though. I'm smarter now. Probably able to help other victims now
 
Now Im beating myself up inside. How did I not see his true nature. How did i call him my best friend and share everything with him.
Almost everyone who has been abused, raped, assaulted and/or molested say that: why didn't I see his/her true nature? That's what abusers do - they manipulate, they put on an appearance of trustworthiness and niceness. They do and say nice things seemingly with no ulterior motive to gain your trust, and then they use your trust against you. They twist things in ways to make you feel like you're the bad person. Abusers take advantage of vulnerable and trusting people. It's not your fault that you didn't see his true nature. It's not your fault that you were so horribly abused by him. You did nothing wrong. He is the one at fault.
Most importantly how do I cut all ties with him.
Change your email address, block him on any social networking sites, change your phone number and mobile phone number. Don't respond to any contact - ignore him. If he starts showing up and harassing you, you can take out a restraining order.

Remember: you don't need to justify to him why you don't want to speak to him or see him. You have every right to put up boundaries without explanation. You have every right to feel safe. As for finding out if you're a virgin or not, you can ask your doctor to do an internal examination. The hymen can of course break due to non-sexual reasons, such as horse riding or tampons or even masturbation, but it might be worth having an examination regardless, particularly if they didn't use condoms. You may want to be checked for sexually transmitted infections or diseases (almost all of which are treatable).
 
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