Speechless... Can You Help?

[scout86]

but I am not certain that they trust in that. I think they each have a piece that wants to know that they can come and go if they need to. That she isn't captive.

That's the kind of stuff you (they?) need to learn isn't it? This might be a good opportunity to work on that. And this MIGHT be something you can try to somewhat bring up with your potential benefactor. (I'm not sure HOW, just a thought.) It seems like it would be helpful for her to understand some of these challenges you're dealing with. This isn't something that would spring to the mind of the uninitiated, I don't think. Makes perfect sense to ME, but if you grew up in a "normal" home, maybe not. And I can see where this is one of those place where well intentioned people could go off in not very useful directions, just because their versions of reality differed drastically.

 

[shimmerz]

This isn't something that would spring to the mind of the uninitiated,

This is a very good point. I am so not used to people 'getting' how I think and I so appreciate that you guys get this. It really is a great thing to be able to bounce things around ... really helpful in not bopping from one disaster to another.

 

[shimmerz]

August, September is lovely here in England

I will get my scheduler on it Richter! lol. Thank god I took swimming lessons. Now if only my pancreas would behave by then!

 

[Eleanor]

I think they each have a piece that wants to know that they can come and go if they need to.

Well, you can tell them, truthfully, that they can come and go as they please. You can promise to spend the whole first day coming and going. All day. You could promise to come and go at odd hours just to please them. (You might want to warn the homeowner tho, like Scout says..)

What else? Play space?

 

[shimmerz]

OMG I just spent ages writing a reply to the woman. I don't know who sounded more confused, her or me. Anyways, I sent a very awkward email back again. Wish me luck will you?

Well, you can tell them, truthfully, that they can come and go as they please. You can promise to spend the whole first day coming and going.

I just realized that this is about night time. Now I am not reacting the way I was before, not triggering like I used to so I am wondering if this might be a mute point. Time and experience will tell. The thing is, this woman is very ummm, prim and proper, so this PTSD thing will be a very abstract (aka screwed up) thing for her. She is so structured.

Anyways, she offered to take me there tomorrow night. Of course I am taking care of pets here so I can't do that. And so it goes. Stomach is going insane.....my EP is definitely not happy about all of this.

 

[sun seeker]

Why is my anxiety going through the roof when I should be more anxious about no place to stay???? Anyone??? Help! I need to do this ....

Because the fear of homelessness is so big that anything that reminds you of the possibility overwhelms you, even if it is to do something to make it better? Just a guess. I see you've come up with a few other reasons in the interim.

Kicking people isn't one of my talents but I'll make you a deal. You send your e-mail and I'll make the phone call I'm dreading, how's that?

If you need any more options, and feel like a really, really long drive, I also have several spare bedrooms.

 

[sun seeker]

Oh... I see I just missed you. Yay!! You did it!!

Now, I'll need a different incentive to make my phone call, darn it all.

Spare rooms still there if needed. Seriously.

 

[shimmerz]

Ahhh, sun, thank you so very much! I will book your place in! Eleanor, we have another one to schedule! ;-)

As for you, miss sun seeker....what is it that needs putting back on the rails for you? How important is this call? If I did it, I know you can!

 

[sun seeker]

Crossing my fingers for you @shimmerz... and like everyone else pointed out, you have several options so whether this one works or not is not a matter of life and death. I know that's easier to say than feel.:(

Can I have Eleanor for my secretary too? :D

My thing is I need a document that proves I'm not eligible for unemployment insurance, for the employment options program. It was supposed to be a simple thing, but of course it wasn't. I spent some of the afternoon at the Service Canada office and just that much took me near to panic. Fluorescent lights, official-looking people looking at me like I'm a Martian when I make a simple request, instructions that don't make any sense, and after a lot of paperwork they tell me there is no such document and suggest I apply for EI so they can turn me down. And I can't find the record of employment that says when my last day of work at an insurable job was. There must be a simpler way (?) What I should be doing is phoning the program coordinator to ask what exactly the document is that I need, in case there is indeed a simpler way, but the card she gave me has a number that seems to be for an office she doesn't work at anymore, so I need to phone her at home, and now I'm stuck wondering whether it's all right to do that and whether I should do it now or wait for office hours tomorrow, and even though I can reason with myself that all this is just annoying paperwork and should be easy enough to solve, my body isn't listening to my brain and any hint of anyone in a position of authority telling me that what I'm trying to do isn't possible puts me into panic mode (I won't be able to do this, so I won't be able to find work, so I'll be homeless, hungry, destitute, and there are no other options.) Silly? Yup. But there I am.

Sorry to be distracting, guys. You may now return to your regularly scheduled programming.

Remember you have a cheering squad waiting to hear how it goes with this woman. Keep us posted okay?

 

[Eleanor]

prim and proper

PERFECT!!! You shall be a revelation to her!

Just remember, you need not explain yourself to her, or justify or anything like that (Let Mary "Let me make one thing perfectly clear. I never explain anything." Poppins be your guide) It would, however, be polite if you were to give her some forewarning of your eccentricities.

I keep very irregular hours. I stay up til all hours of the night, or not. I like to take randomly timed long and short walks. I talk to myself. I sometimes take naps in the afternoon. I tend not to have visitors. My children are quite awful, fortunately I hardly ever have them over to visit. I eat toast without crusts. Cats like me. I have every other Tuesday off. Whatever. "Innoculate" her against those things.

I shall tell my phone about the schedule. :whistling:

 

[Eleanor]

there is no such document

I am actually quite hopeless at schedules but THIS!!! (Oh OH pick me pick me, I know the answer, pick me!)

Since there is no such document, all you need to do is to take an official document and then REDO it into the one you need. Talk someone into stamping it, and then send it off. Easy Peasy. Do you have a document that says anything about insurance eligibility? Turn it into the opposite. Get a signature and a stamp. "The lady over there said I should have you stamp it...." Big SMILE.

 

[sun seeker]

I put an answer here to @Eleanor's advice, but then decided to remove it, not wanting to derail the thread.