Hi
My wife of 8 years was severely attacked by her ex husband 10 years ago. She almost died and her 3 small children were made to watch. This man has since been in and out of prison hurting multiple young women in extremely brutal ways. She was diagnosed with cptsd 10 years ago but has had no real therapy in that time. When he’s in prison she copes very well, however everytime he is released her ptsd heightens and she has a mental breakdown. The breakdown being more severe everytime. I have suffered with depression myself with what is going on in the world. However she is the type of person to never give up on the people she loves. In March she left me. I then discovered her ex was released almost the same day we split. Since then we get close now and again, then she pushes me away because she says she can’t trust me. She has kicked me out, put locks on every door in the house, wants her kids out in case he turns up and has bought the biggest dog she could find. She is also very hypervigilant, anxious, fearful and won’t trust anybody. Having flashbacks, night terrors, struggles to sleep and sleeps with a hammer under her pillow. I’ve have told her this is all her ptsd and she needs to listen to me and get help ASAP! But this only makes things worse because she sees me as the bad guy. This isn’t the first time. If I leave her alone she also gets worse. We are now at the point were she won’t even talk to me. And she has said she is having suicidal thoughts! Yet she tells everybody else she is fine and we spilt because of my depression. I don’t know what to do? If she doesn’t get help this will keep happening and it will never end!! Also it will affect her 4 children, one of which has psychosis due to what happened and two are autistic. How do I get through to her a make her see I’m helping her and not attacking her?
My wife of 8 years was severely attacked by her ex husband 10 years ago. She almost died and her 3 small children were made to watch. This man has since been in and out of prison hurting multiple young women in extremely brutal ways. She was diagnosed with cptsd 10 years ago but has had no real therapy in that time. When he’s in prison she copes very well, however everytime he is released her ptsd heightens and she has a mental breakdown. The breakdown being more severe everytime. I have suffered with depression myself with what is going on in the world. However she is the type of person to never give up on the people she loves. In March she left me. I then discovered her ex was released almost the same day we split. Since then we get close now and again, then she pushes me away because she says she can’t trust me. She has kicked me out, put locks on every door in the house, wants her kids out in case he turns up and has bought the biggest dog she could find. She is also very hypervigilant, anxious, fearful and won’t trust anybody. Having flashbacks, night terrors, struggles to sleep and sleeps with a hammer under her pillow. I’ve have told her this is all her ptsd and she needs to listen to me and get help ASAP! But this only makes things worse because she sees me as the bad guy. This isn’t the first time. If I leave her alone she also gets worse. We are now at the point were she won’t even talk to me. And she has said she is having suicidal thoughts! Yet she tells everybody else she is fine and we spilt because of my depression. I don’t know what to do? If she doesn’t get help this will keep happening and it will never end!! Also it will affect her 4 children, one of which has psychosis due to what happened and two are autistic. How do I get through to her a make her see I’m helping her and not attacking her?