I think this is the hard part -- that for them it really is this simple.r maybe it is, maybe that is the reason for the, erm, embellishments of the actual violence?
Designed.It was designed to feel shameful.
I think that's the hard part. "Normal" abuse doesn't require planning. It just is what it is.
Designing abuse requires thought. Sometimes lots of thought. It's about more than taking out aggression on whoever is nearby
Its about creating a situation of total power/submissiveness.
ugh. That just hurts my soul.