Self Pity, Attention Seeking And Not Trying

[bell]

Thanks, @StellaBlue, I'm glad you liked it.

Just wanted to add that I wasn't trying to sound smug or like I have all the answers, and apologies if I did to anyone. (I glanced over it again, and it might sound like that to some.)

What I have learned from this site is that we all have our own journeys and they unfold in different ways. And that we have to take responsibility for our own healing. And that if people are repeatedly telling you same thing over and over again, there is probably some wheat in the proverbial chaff for you to tend to.

But what it (and you!) taught me the most is, that when it comes to getting better, the most important thing is when you're in a safe environment and your brain is telling you to run to look around and see if there is any evidence of danger.

And if there isn't, to stay 5 seconds of you only think you can stand 3. This is what is most helping me build up my sense of trust in both myself and others. Literally retraining myself. (Baby steps, a la What About Bob?!)

 

[digger]

I think you need to create a troll smiley/emoji

:troll:

 

[notsurewheretoturn]

...contemplating troll versus existing member. If existing, why not just login and say the same thing?

Exactly what I was thinking. Are we sure this isn't someone whose been banned just trying to stick a knife in?

Quick straw poll here, how many members (not guests) retell their experiences to help others understand/make sense of what they are going through and to let them know they are not alone in their thinking/feeling/reactions? I know I do.

Does that mean I'm stuck in a rut? No, it means I'm trying to help others understand and get through the nightmare that is PTSD.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I'm guessing this is a former member from that brief period of time when we could delete accounts? That would explain why they don't just log in and post under their old name. But, all of their old posts are still here.

 

[midfing]

Dear Observer,
You are entitled to your opinion, although I'm not sure why you assume you know what anyone's life is truly like or what they are truly like because you see their posts on their internet. Your post made me feel legitimately sucky, but I think victim blaming comes in many forms. Your post reads to me like victim blaming, frankly. You assume that because people are not where you are that there is something wrong and they aren't doing enough, clearly, to get to where you are at this very moment. And yet people are so vastly different and complex ptsd like I have is such a fricking bear and a half. I've dealt with my share of judgment and discrimination, but have thankfully known some kindness. Your post reads to me a bit like you need, sadly, to not give people a hand up now that you feel that you've made so much progress. I think that's pretty sad really. Maybe you got something out of posting that. I'm not sure what, because I don't know you in RL. From my perspective, people with trauma and ptsd suffer far more than the world will ever know. I've suffered since I was a little girl due to my father. Have you know that kind of pain? It's unreal in that it is so intensely real. This is my second post here, and I hope that maybe you gentle your perspective a little, b/c you can't possibly know what people are truly like or what they are truly going thru and be able to make legitimate judgments based on a few threads. Are we truly fit to judge one another? Personally I think not. - Me

 

[meltot]

When I got sober, I had to decide what things were in my control and fix them, and what things I was going to suffer from regardless because of this illness. It was VERY helpful to me to clear out those weeds so that I could learn to manage and cope with what was left, and it felt great to accomplish progressing where I could.

I don't agree with the spirit of this post, but there is something to be said about letting oneself being beaten down by more than is necessary. Ignore the needlessly haughty and critical post and know that you're awesome for working on yourself and awesome for just getting by when you can't. This is an awesome community, I love what I see.

 

[crazyhorse69]

self pity, an attitude of resignation and absolute denial, are all familiar ground to me, but I'm wanting freedom from these behaviors, I stopped drinking in 2008 and wanted to believe life would be more meaningful sober than drunk, I've been reading PTSD literature and was advised to find some forums to visit and share and discuss, the title of this thread range true for me, so I thought I'd drop a note and say hello, I've felt paralyzed in fear for years, playing the ca melon, and listening to people then telling them what I think they would want to hear, I want to feel intimacy with people, but only two groups of people have I ever felt remotely intimate with and that's veterans and child abuse survivors, seems as if we have a common understand between one another, I know for myself, when I'm wanting to complain and bitch it's because there's something within that I don't want to change, give up, let go off, etc etc, anyways, I work out at sea so will be leaving for a month out at sea and wanted to say hello to everyone.

Regards, David

 

[Mallaky]

Guys, you all need to spend some time on gaming forums. The most horrid and awfull trolls are there, and it is a good internet boot camp.
This is a very bad troll. Too passive agressive, too obvious and selective in what he responds too. I mean, look at his responses, he does not even respond to anything that was said in the thread. Just responds to the one line of thinking he wants to see, when there were many varied responses.

So, please, dont let the nasty bugger get to you. :roflmao: Just a little kid that wants to lash out.

 

[KwanYingirl]

@theObserver what motivated you to come back to the forum? Did you get what you are after?

 

[Intrepid]

I am sorry everyone got so upset, it truly was not my intention.

I'm interested to know what your intention was, the real, honest intention, if you can reach it.

People get misunderstood for a lot of reasons. We don't always say what we intend, and often don't really know what we intend. Communicating well is difficult under normal circumstances, and for someone who suffers from PTSD it can be a nightmare. I'm not saying this to be sarcastic. I'm saying this because I have been there, saying what I hoped would have one effect, and getting responses that showed me that I made a mistake.

I can understand if you don't want to post a reply here. The waters are poisoned now. Get into a direct conversation with me or someone else and you may be able to get some understanding about your true intentions.

 

[Friday]

Humph! I've only got 2 out of 3. I see room for improvement! :sneaky:

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Get into a direct conversation with me or someone else and you may be able to get some understanding about your true intentions.

Guests can't PM. Again, i'm guessing he/she cancelled his/her account when that was an option.