Some Peoples Avatars Freak Me Out

[Tanishq]

Desperate to reach out and terrified of contact.

Hi Abstract,

Yes, It would have terrified them. I understand it's hard to know what people want sometimes. But that person's post was nice and put some nice thoughts. That made me think to post on their wall, so they can have some relief that they are getting support here and need not to feel alone anymore.

To be honest with you, I didn't know that could be situation. I would apologize sincerely if I make them terrified. That member was very new. When I was new, some people posted nice things on my profile page. It made me feel good and think I can get support from here. But I didn't think this could have been different with other people.

Have good day and thank you for sharing more insight. I will be careful about this in future. :)

 

[Philippa]

Still...an image of a gun on a PTSD forum is not very appropriate, I agree.

 

[Britt.f7]

Abstract, I also freeze up when I see texts, emails, things on face book, cards, etc. Some of it is because I worry they are going to say something bad. However, I don't get why I don't open cards. My friend sent me three of them as of late, and I haven't opened a single one.

There is only one avatar that creeps me out a little, but I try not to focus on it. It's just a hang up of mine. I am glad that I have never seen that gun one. That would have caused me to panic.

 

[ISupportHer]

Hopefully the Halloween avatars will now be replaced by fun holiday ones. I should dust off the Grinch ones I used last year, LOL

 

[Abstract]

. I understand it's hard to know what people want sometimes. But that person's post was nice and put some nice thoughts. That made me think to post on their wall, so they can have some relief that they are getting support here and need not to feel alone anymore.

I think you sound like a lovely and caring person. I would not change anything that you do. Although it freaked me out and freaks me out I still greatly appreciate the intensions people have and know it is an irrational response. We all own our "issues" and they are not others responsibility. The reason I am able to interact as much I am at the moment is because my symptoms are down quite a bit.

It hurts very much to care about others so much but find interacting so viscerally fear inducing. It is nothing to do with confidence. I am fine sociably.

 

[Abstract]

Abstract, I also freeze up when I see texts, emails, things on face book, cards, etc.

Britt,

Sorry to hear that. I do freeze when I anticipate something triggering sometimes but mostly I don't really understand this. The closer I am to the person the more problematic it can be. And then I can't respond for ages sometimes and hate that I am hurting the people I care about. Trying with radical acceptance but it is hard.

 

[Abstract]

Phillipa,
Shall answer when my brain starts working again. :rolleyes: Thanks!

 

[Tanishq]

We all own our "issues" and they are not others responsibility. The reason I am able to interact as much I am at the moment is because my symptoms are down quite a bit.

Thank you for compliments.

Honestly Abstract, You're helping me to understand some unknown responses/thoughts some people never tell me. I care about my friends and I always make sure everything is fine between us.

Can I make a request to you? If in future I freak you out with some things in our conversations, do let me know. May be there is something to learn more.

I appreciate the way you let me know about this all things which can/can't overwhelm you.

I am glad to know you socialize finely. But why it hurts when you get to care about others? This what we discussed what if that freaks out or something reminds you?

Hope you're having good day there, Abstract. :)

 

[Britt.f7]

The closer I am to the person the more problematic it can be

The friend who sends me the cards is a very close friend that I've known to high school. I would say the card thing started a few years ago. Even at Christmas it is hard. I'm not sure why this is either. I know that they aren't going to say anything bad.

Maybe one day we will figure it out. Either that or conquer it. Here's hoping.