News We are allowed to grieve

[BlackbirdSinging]

I hope it's ok to post this link here. I came across an article today about why things happen and grief. I found it to be one of the most honest and profound things I've read. And I felt like I had to share it here.

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason

 

[TXbandit]

"Because it is in those places—in the shadows of horror we rarely allow ourselves to enter—where the beginnings of healing are found. This healing is found when we have others who are willing to enter that space alongside us. Every grieving person on earth needs these people."

I've found a few of "these people" here on the forum and am so grateful.

Thank you for sharing, BBS.

 

[Cinnamon4z]

Thanks for sharing Blackbird!
I really teared up when reading this. Releasing my grief is very helpful at times- and just having someone there to listen, or put their hand on your shoulder is very comforting and reassuring.
I would get knots when hearing people say "everything happens for a reason"- or worse yet, some bastards would even say, "you must have caused your accident in some way".

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so much for sharing this one, I so appreciate it because it came at at time in my life where I am just beginning to grieve something. I so need to read this today. Many hugs.

 

[2ndtimearound]

Wow. I am actually speechless, This is exactly the article that I needed to read at exactly this moment in time. I am going through an experience now that can only be described as torture. There is no "reason" for it, although than the unconscionable, narcissistic behavior of individuals and agencies working together in a corrupt system. Will I learn from this experience? Perhaps. Will I emerge on the other side a bit stronger? I'm not sure. But I do so IN SPITE of what I am going through and not because of it. Fighting and moving forward is one of two alternatives and every day I have to choose which path I want to take. And dammit, grief is tough. It's excruciatingly painful. It's unfair. But it's necessary. And to the so many people that just want to "do something" and for all the times that I just want to "be the problem, so that I can fix myself," I can only say "be there for me, watch me crumble, and help me pick the pieces up." I don't need answers. I need people who can handle my grief. And it's not a pretty journey.

It's through the broken places that light begins to shine through.

Thanks for posting this, BBS.

 

[Fadeaway]

Wow, that was powerful! I wish every person in the world could read that. At the very least, every person here. I can't thank you enough for posting that.

 

[Chincho]

Thank you so much for sharing this Blackbird!!! I needed to read this.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am grieving a great loss and am trying to start over again in life. I remember that reading this really helped me to understand my own grief.

 

[TXbandit]

((((Rain))))

 

[Victory]

Thanks, BBS. The article gave me the strength I need to make it through another long night.