General Boyfriend Now Ex With Ptsd Left Now Blocked Me

[Dimples]

I posted a couple months back that my then boyfriend was moving out and got some good advice... Well since then he has moved out, the way he moved was abruptly, meaning I knew when he was moving: so I thought, as he moved out on another day when I was at work.....I was heart broken crushed and cried for days.... He NEVER told me the reason why or what made him want to move out... So fast forward 9 wks later of no contact .... I was having dreams for over a week about him and waking up with bad headaches.... I felt the need to call him even though I was in no contact... So I finally broke no contact and called him on his cell phone only to hear that he iblocked my phone number by his carrier... I was heart broken.... So the next day I decide to call his job only because the night before I had yet another dream and woke up to a headache... So when calling him on his job, I explained I was calling out of concern and wanted to see if he was ok.... He was very rude and cold to me and told me he basically never wanted to talk to me again..... It's sad because I don't know why he left and he makes it sound like I did something so awful to him that he hates me.... Truth is I was only a supporter and now he hates me? So confused .... Is it normal or should I ask is it to be expected for PTSD suffers to block ex phone number and be mean and bitter for no reason?

 

[Sweetpea76]

Could the PTSD be fueling his anger? Maybe. He could be upset to hear from you again after breaking up. He could feel like his boundaries are being violated. It could be anything. It could have nothing to do with the PTSD.

At this point in time though, he has asked for no contact. It's time to just grieve and move on for good.

 

[Lucycat]

Take PTSD out of the equation. If an ex tried to phone me after I had finished the relationship, blocking the number is one of the first things I would do. Once the ex knew they were blocked - yes I would be angry that they contacted me at work unless it was an emergency. In fact my husband (not ex) would not contact me at work unless it was urgent. Work is work. Phoning someone at work is not respecting them or their employer.

I am sorry the relationship has ended. But it is what it is. You need to take care of yourself and move forwards.

 

[illusionist]

I've known of non Ptsd sufferers to block ex partners, and appear to be mean and bitter when the ex has used other means of contact. You were blocked because your ex did not want contact. I personally think it's a natural reaction....for anyone who expects their boundaries to be respected.

Please accept their decision and move on with your life.

 

[Dimples]

I was in no contact for 9 weeks clearly I moved on as well just wondering what would make him block my number seeing that I did nothing to him.... I was not being disrespectful by calling his job as I stated I only called because of the dreams and headaches thinking something was wrong.... I was taken back by his response.... Thanks for your advice and respondes.

 

[EveHarrington]

He wants to be left alone.

Please leave him alone.

You may want to help him, but he wants nothing to do with you.

You can't force care/concern on someone, regardless of your intentions.

What matters is that he wants nothing to do with you.

Many (many!) stalkers don't stalk because they want to hurt the person. They actually care about the person and want to "help" in some way.

Bottom line, if your presence is unwanted, just stay away.

 

[Buttercup]

I just want to chime in here. I know exactly how you feel. I was blocked for about 5 weeks recently, and for no reason either. It hurts because it feels like they hate you and that you did something awful and it's so confusing. I know how that feels. I just want to tell you I understand how you feel. hugs!!

 

[Deleted member 39414]

I posted a couple months back that my then boyfriend was moving out and got some good advice... Well since then he has...

Just came across your post because I'm dealing with similar heartbreak. My boyfriend abruptly moved out as well. This comes after many love letters and planning our future. I feel I have been kicked in the face. He says he loves me but was getting colder towards me. I haven't heard from him in 3 days.

 

[awayhome06]

oh goodness. I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm sorry also for the apparent lack of sympathy for your situation.
three years ago, I found my husband sitting on the floor in our bedroom with a knife on the floor in front of him. He told me he had been having an affair and gotten the girl pregnant and left me that night.
you bet your ass I called his work while he was living with her. I called him. I called her.
Granted this was an extreme situation and we were still married, however, I can completely relate to feeling the concern still after the other person has ended the relationship and you are left confused and grasping at straws to figure out what the heck went wrong.
I have the same advice, you have to find a way to let it go and deal with the nightmares and headaches for yourself, but I want you to know that your reaction and wanting to check he's okay is natural. You don't need to give in to them, and you don't want to be his stalker, but caring if he's okay doesn't make you a bad person.
If the nightmares and headaches continue to be a problem, instead of trying to fix them through checking on him, I would get some professional help coping with the unfortunate situation you're in. Take care of yourself.