Self Pity, Attention Seeking And Not Trying

[Neverthesame]

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. I quite seriously doubt this person made a mistake, or feels any sort of remorse. Whether or not they had an account, deleted it, were banned or any combination of the above. Quite frankly this person is a self righteous asshole. I personally don't want to hear their excuse.

All this person has had to do, is simply say, "Sorry, not how I meant to come across. I am/was (account name). Very sorry, allow me to clarify"

Either they should have left it a one liner, then buggered off. Or properly re-introduced themselves.
Troll, that's all this is.

 

[Intrepid]

Guests can't PM. Again, i'm guessing he/she cancelled his/her account when that was an option.

Oh, yeah. Duh!

 

[Iriszl]

May I ask why you neither show your real avatar?
You are unknown for the rest of us ... Talking self pity and idiotic things when you neither show at least your avatar??? Or your real username ?
You are just a guest.courage here or there if you would heal at least you can show up your face - don't you think?!
To judge others are easy and stupid people equipment.if you didn't know it.
Would have a question did you have CPTSD or PTSD?
That's for example make difference.maybe you had a help and support what others can't have.
Personally me I have CPTSD and don't have neither a psychotherapist or a concealer or anyone who would listen what I would say out loud, I only have paper and pen.
Seems your healing made you selfish and egoist.
And even if you heal you wouldn't forget the things what caused In your mind, what was your thoughts or when you get a feeling flashback and you f*cked, because you can't do anything with it, you can't say to your mind is not exist because your mind made it up- you go threw and you left with silence and resentment and no one there for you. You should had a really good support so you shall be glad. And no one pity themselves here, maybe a bit b cause of the psychological pain not the same as physical.
Do you have empathy? Can you feel? Can you put you self I. The other persons shoes? Are you sure you can? What is make you so better, with your judgment?are you sure you can't be judge back and you would fall into a big black pitch, because of your high horse? I don't think you healed - you become an ignorant twat... There is your judgment.
So or may I ask so the kid for example who got raped several times on the week - that person is weak too, because he/she become kata tome?
Or maybe you really healed and you are just become another idiot person, good for you.
Be happy - and if something is annoys you then don't come here and commenting like that. Everybody is in different level- how would YOU feel if you read this when you had your worst period with your PTSD? Would be helped to you?

And to see I'm not hiding as you do
Here is my real name
Irisz a. Lakatos
(I can't post my email...)
Or maybe you just bloody bored, or maybe you are boring person?. I feel pity for you, not the people who try to sort out themselves. And I'm sorry to the people who helps you, b cause you should do the same for others.thats what nice people would do.

 

[anthony]

May I ask why you neither show your real avatar?

Just like you, avatars are not shown for guest posts as you don't have an account as a guest.

 

[jimrich]

In re-reading my post, I suppose I can see how it could be interpreted in so many different ways.

I came here,read posts,felt sad and decided to say something,nothing more,nothing less.

What I said was true though,and it really makes me sad to see these people are still in the same rut.

I suppose I should probably keep my thoughts and opinions to myself next time I visit though.

If I were you, I'd take that sad and judgmental feeling/attitude and work on and with it (work your ass off) to see WHY you feel that way and use it to help you get even further along in your Recovery. You may be experiencing "projection" in which you are seeing stuff in others that is STILL IN your self so your feelings of sadness, blame, scorn and maybe anger is telling you that there is still some work to do to get to empathy, compassion, understanding, acceptance and, ultimately, FRIENDSHIP and LOVE for all those folks that you are JUDGING here. Feel sad for your own misconceptions and then figure out how to see others and YOUR SELF in a better, more loving light. That's what I would do, anyway. Good luck finding love and acceptance for your PTSD mates here,
jim

 

[Meadowsweet]

I took what was said at face value, a few years ago a thread titled 'pity parties' said pretty much the same thing. They are just peoples opinions and whenever we share on any internet forum, people read and judge us - it's usually easier than looking at themselves.

But, in reply to the op, I'm an older member, and a couple of times since being here I've gone off for months at a time. Usually because I'm on the up and I need to stop reading about PTSD and trauma for a while to let me get out 'familiar' thought habits that could bring me down.

But my PTSD returns and right now I'm finding myself back in a difficult state, so I've come back to the forums, and am probably going over some of the same things I've spoken about before because those are issues, some of which developed in childhood and have been reinforced for 40 years. And it takes me courage and strength to make that choice to come back in and really start looking at these feelings and doing the work to get back up and out again.

When I look at others on the forums, I always think that people that have been here a long time stay because they've made groups of friends here and when they're in a good place they help support others and when they have a down moment, they can ask their friends for support. I struggle to connect with people in that way, so I look and see people that have successfully accomplished something that I can't and I might learn from that.

 

[Recovery4Me]

It just makes me sad to see those same people here,hanging on,afraid to let go and move on in life.

Seriously, this is passive judgement wrapped in sentimentalism. It is the journey not the destination that dictates movement & can heal.

 

[John7377]

Hello.

I am a former member here and sometimes I still like to come here and read posts.

I have noticed there are...

Walk a mile in my moccasins buddy.

Did you get 8 hours of sleep last night?
I got 3!!

Did you have a nightmare last night about your trauma?
I had one that woke me up shaking!!

Did you hear the sadness in your wife's voice when she
said "not another nightmare??"
I did!!

Did you try to lie to her to protect her?
I did!!

So, some of us, myself included, attend therapy and group sessions for years. But you know what? Nothing takes away the memories of our trauma I experienced and witnessed and how it has screwed up our lives and relationships forever. Only death, which I sometimes think is best for me, or Alzheimer's will take my memories away.

So, "walk a mile in my moccasins" before you speak to me of my not getting better.

John

 

[Nevermore]

I haven't been here in a long time, but I have a different take on what The Observer said. I recently kind of forced myself to do a long free range walk in another country - I forced myself because I felt like I was becoming walled in by the way I was living! I learned many things on that walk, and one of them was that I will always listen to my own self before I listen to a counsellor/therapist/psychologist because, although I needed them and they helped me, I really didn't want to stay in the closed up situation I found myself in.
I don't think it's self pity, it's kind of not knowing where to from here! I'm not all healed and cured, but I liked seeing myself be brave in spite of it all, and I liked seeing that I could do this thing, albeit with many fears and paranoias, and as a result I take my fears and paranoias less seriously than I did!
Maybe this poster is just trying to say it's possible to live anyway, it's possible to go forward - even with debilitating dissociation and distrust in our fellow humans. It was better therapy for me going on that walk than all the talking I've done, and all the antidepressants, tranquilisers etc. Even though I did still feel some isolation and fear, it instilled hope in me that if I keep trying not to limit myself and keep accepting the changes in me I can still do what I want to do, and not have to look forward to a lifetime of therapy and pills - because I realy hated that thought!
It's not a pity-party the way people feel after immense trauma, but I did feel after the walk that I know better how to look after me than any therapist or any drug - and it really helped me. I don't feel so stuck.
I don't think I ever posted my specific situation, but I do still feel the echoes of it and maybe I always will. But still! I learned I can operate in the world even with anxiety, PtSD etc etc.
Maybe that's what he was trying to say. You can't go back to the person you were before, but you can go forward into a world informed by prior trauma - and that world can still come up to greet you and to meet you. There is hope!

 

[Mallaky]

@Jo Jo
Thats a nice sentiment but it is decidedly not what OP was saying. Op was saying that he believes he worked his ass off and that he believes he feels better because of that, so everyone that is not feeling better, everyday and all the time, is a lazy, whiny crybaby and should be ashamed of him/herself. That is really all there is to it.

When I tell somebody "You are so ugly, you make want to cry." I am not, maybe, under certain viewpoints, arguably, perhaps implying "You could be so beauitull."

 

[Nevermore]

When I tell somebody "You are so ugly, you make want to cry." I am not, maybe, under certain viewpoints, arguably, perhaps implying "You could be so beauitull."

That made me laugh. Actually you're right, Malady. I went back and re-read the first post. I think I got carried away with my own surprising and completely foreign feeling of hope after doing that walk! The OP does seem very judgmental - which is strange if he/she has actually had PTSD as one thing I have learned too well is to be patient and not judge others, having had to learn to be patient and non-judgmental with my own self. Sorry, I think I had a bit of Pollyanna syndrome!

 

[crazyhorse69]

Good morning,

Good to read everyones post, i work on a fishing boat and go out in the ocean for a month at a time, just came to port a couple days ago. The isolation of being out at sea for long periods of time gets to you have a while. I read the book about developmental trauma and found alot of helpful info there,