hello guys, I need your help too as my GF getting anxiety/panic attacks in Cambodia for vacation.
We are very close in relationships, she said she loves me, treat me as her bf, her very important person and perhaps, future husband. When she facing the different feeling (anxiety/panic attack), she feeling everything so different and she asks for my accompany when she back to Malaysia. She needs me so badly when she face all these.
Let's say about my GF attitude, she thinks a lot, over kind, always stress herself, doubts herself and so on. She don't want to lose a friend even the friend hates her for stupid reason, she said that her attitude is unique and always wanna be herself, she dont like to follow people style and so on, she is afraid of marriage too thats why she dont want to marry, and when before she get that anxiety/panic attack, she always said to me that she hates herself so much, but she loves me that much and think that I am very good to her and very blissful to have me, she dont want to leave me but she is that kind of when she thinks she is not good enough, and thinks that i deserve a better one and prefer to take the pain and give up just to let me happier.
Back to the topic, when she is back from Cambodia, she hold my hand so tight, she said the feelings will come sometimes, and then after that when she see people around, it will bring her to another scenes and it makes her fear of it, and when time passes longer, even worse, not even her friends she feel uncomfortable, even her family, and me she feel uncomfortable too.
after struggling for two months, she suddenly told me that she feels so painful, she cant feel herself and she wanted to hate herself but she cant, she tried so hard to get back herself but at the same time she don't want me to feel sad because of how she treated me, she feel a little bit lost feeling on me and she don know why, she tried to keep hold but she said if the feeling keep going round and round, she don't think she can handle the relationship, means she still can predict that she lose her feeling on me without any reason, she said even her own feeling she also could not control.
and at last, she dont want to hurt me anymore, she decides to have break up with me, she is so suffering, because the more i want to close to her, the more she wants to avoid, she dont want to force herself and she just wants to be alone to find back herself and i can hate her if i wanted to because she feels everything is her fault, blame on her and so on. Give her some time and space for her to figure it out. during the break, when she sees me she feels extreme uncomfortable, fear, guilty and so on and she dont know why, i dont know is it the anxiety makes her feel painful and scare of me, but that time she said that kind of feeling now only to me, and it was very strong.
After one month of break, she finds relief for herself. she told me that she have been in a hard situation for long, but she choose to face it instead of running away, and then she finds relieft for herself and she knows that she live happily and i am in a sad situation, people will surely have bad words on her. When we met up in water activities with her cousins and our friends, she is completely like forget me and was like even worst than a friend, i don't know an anxiety person can mind about what i am thinking and prefer to hide herself and avoid me, she said to me that she will explain to me why she will keep avoid eye contacts to me right now after one month of break.
but then, i was very a lot of question marks that, will an anxiety person post a lot of facebook and instagram photos like she seldom did it before she get anxiety (she went for vacation). She is more attached to her mobile phone all the time, lack interaction with her close friend which make her friend feel sad too (her friend is in with her in cambodia too). and she said to have break, but she is very cruel that she only think for herself, delete everything about us, such as facebook photos, deleting comments, unlike all the posts about our relationship and so on. Normally these will be done if she hates me that much, but why not just block me? but she is not one day straight do it, during that one month break she did everything about it, and we decided to meet up one on one this Sunday to figure out everything, and one last thing, she might don't know she have anxiety and she only believe in prayers since her aunt persuades her to full into christian life, yet she didn't seek for any psychologist because i think she will not believe about it, i will try to see what she thinks throughout all these incidents, gonna ask everything about it. But I just want to know more about what anxiety person will get affected in love? Will an anxiety person will sacrifice her love and treat her love so cruel?
Kindly give me some suggestions. I know that a lot people will fed up of me as i posted about my gf, but i really need to understand how is the anxiety/dp/dr/panicattack person react in a relationship. Thank you so much.
We are very close in relationships, she said she loves me, treat me as her bf, her very important person and perhaps, future husband. When she facing the different feeling (anxiety/panic attack), she feeling everything so different and she asks for my accompany when she back to Malaysia. She needs me so badly when she face all these.
Let's say about my GF attitude, she thinks a lot, over kind, always stress herself, doubts herself and so on. She don't want to lose a friend even the friend hates her for stupid reason, she said that her attitude is unique and always wanna be herself, she dont like to follow people style and so on, she is afraid of marriage too thats why she dont want to marry, and when before she get that anxiety/panic attack, she always said to me that she hates herself so much, but she loves me that much and think that I am very good to her and very blissful to have me, she dont want to leave me but she is that kind of when she thinks she is not good enough, and thinks that i deserve a better one and prefer to take the pain and give up just to let me happier.
Back to the topic, when she is back from Cambodia, she hold my hand so tight, she said the feelings will come sometimes, and then after that when she see people around, it will bring her to another scenes and it makes her fear of it, and when time passes longer, even worse, not even her friends she feel uncomfortable, even her family, and me she feel uncomfortable too.
after struggling for two months, she suddenly told me that she feels so painful, she cant feel herself and she wanted to hate herself but she cant, she tried so hard to get back herself but at the same time she don't want me to feel sad because of how she treated me, she feel a little bit lost feeling on me and she don know why, she tried to keep hold but she said if the feeling keep going round and round, she don't think she can handle the relationship, means she still can predict that she lose her feeling on me without any reason, she said even her own feeling she also could not control.
and at last, she dont want to hurt me anymore, she decides to have break up with me, she is so suffering, because the more i want to close to her, the more she wants to avoid, she dont want to force herself and she just wants to be alone to find back herself and i can hate her if i wanted to because she feels everything is her fault, blame on her and so on. Give her some time and space for her to figure it out. during the break, when she sees me she feels extreme uncomfortable, fear, guilty and so on and she dont know why, i dont know is it the anxiety makes her feel painful and scare of me, but that time she said that kind of feeling now only to me, and it was very strong.
After one month of break, she finds relief for herself. she told me that she have been in a hard situation for long, but she choose to face it instead of running away, and then she finds relieft for herself and she knows that she live happily and i am in a sad situation, people will surely have bad words on her. When we met up in water activities with her cousins and our friends, she is completely like forget me and was like even worst than a friend, i don't know an anxiety person can mind about what i am thinking and prefer to hide herself and avoid me, she said to me that she will explain to me why she will keep avoid eye contacts to me right now after one month of break.
but then, i was very a lot of question marks that, will an anxiety person post a lot of facebook and instagram photos like she seldom did it before she get anxiety (she went for vacation). She is more attached to her mobile phone all the time, lack interaction with her close friend which make her friend feel sad too (her friend is in with her in cambodia too). and she said to have break, but she is very cruel that she only think for herself, delete everything about us, such as facebook photos, deleting comments, unlike all the posts about our relationship and so on. Normally these will be done if she hates me that much, but why not just block me? but she is not one day straight do it, during that one month break she did everything about it, and we decided to meet up one on one this Sunday to figure out everything, and one last thing, she might don't know she have anxiety and she only believe in prayers since her aunt persuades her to full into christian life, yet she didn't seek for any psychologist because i think she will not believe about it, i will try to see what she thinks throughout all these incidents, gonna ask everything about it. But I just want to know more about what anxiety person will get affected in love? Will an anxiety person will sacrifice her love and treat her love so cruel?
Kindly give me some suggestions. I know that a lot people will fed up of me as i posted about my gf, but i really need to understand how is the anxiety/dp/dr/panicattack person react in a relationship. Thank you so much.
