In my process of healing I found out some stories about POW people who were brutally abused by Japanese captors, and after the war they went to Japan and personally forgave them.
One was Eric Lomax, other was Louis Zamperini.
This helped them heal their wounds and heal their PTSD, flashbacks dissapeared and they got better.
I am ready to forgive my abusers and molesters if this can help me heal.
Actually after 20 years I found one of my abusers on fb, and just asked him was he John Doe. He recognized me, and immediately he started to apologise, telling how sorry is him to inflict me so much pain and how his consciousness burns him because of that. As anyone who went through abuse and knows how painful this is, first I felt fear and disgust. This apology was maybe sincere, but its like Ted Bundy said it. Nobody would believe him and he is way past his redemption.
After more than half a year I found strength and asked him again why did he do it. He just said he was young and stupid and didnt think right and that he realised it wasnt excuse.
So after listening story from pow who forgave their captors, I started to imagine that im forgiving him. It did felt a bit lighter and better.
So, should I write and forgive him? Will this help my healing path? Im afraid that this could backfire on me. Did anyone did this?
One was Eric Lomax, other was Louis Zamperini.
This helped them heal their wounds and heal their PTSD, flashbacks dissapeared and they got better.
I am ready to forgive my abusers and molesters if this can help me heal.
Actually after 20 years I found one of my abusers on fb, and just asked him was he John Doe. He recognized me, and immediately he started to apologise, telling how sorry is him to inflict me so much pain and how his consciousness burns him because of that. As anyone who went through abuse and knows how painful this is, first I felt fear and disgust. This apology was maybe sincere, but its like Ted Bundy said it. Nobody would believe him and he is way past his redemption.
After more than half a year I found strength and asked him again why did he do it. He just said he was young and stupid and didnt think right and that he realised it wasnt excuse.
So after listening story from pow who forgave their captors, I started to imagine that im forgiving him. It did felt a bit lighter and better.
So, should I write and forgive him? Will this help my healing path? Im afraid that this could backfire on me. Did anyone did this?