Wonder Why People Think This Way

[Deleted member 12723]

Jaret, the only place I talk about ptsd with is here on the forums. I do not tell people about it. I used to tell anyone I could. I was so confused and bewildered. I told the wrong people and it backfired and backlashed on me. I had alot more problems with people for telling them.

So I have learned not to talk about it anymore. I also talk about it in therapy.

Be careful to whom you talk to about your problems. People just cannot handle things like that. I know it is sad and weird but that is the reality. You need to protect yourself. There is also boundries. You have to have them and be careful not to cross other peoples boundries as well.

I think in time you will find people that you can talk about it too. Just hang in there and do not give up. Big hugs.

 

[Tanishq]

Philippa, Thank you so much for being here. I am feeling good.

Yes, Class coordinator does sound bit strict. So I get bit backward for my own safety. I think 10 times before saying something to her.

That another madam can have lots of work by her side and she may not be able to pay attention to me. You helped me to think positively and look at brighter side.

 

[Tanishq]

Be careful to whom you talk to about your problems. People just cannot handle things like that.

Hey gizmo. You are right. I wrote everything in paper including that I am traumatic and suffering from physical issues. I did this on first time when I went at her office for leave application submission. First time she read it properly, but second time she read first paragraph and then gave back to me.

She told me give me application only and she told you will have to come at college.

I haven't told anyone. I have decided to share this all things who are much mature, conscious and can listen with patience.

You know gizmo, I was thinking about other things. If you are physically injured then you can show people yes you are injured. but when you are mentally injured it is impossible and much harder to prove that you are really going through something like rough time of your life.

Thank you for big hug :hug: :)

 

[Philippa]

There is also boundries. You have to have them and be careful not to cross other peoples boundries as well.

Yes, you said this well. I was trying to find the words, but it felt like you may be, without knowing it, invading other peoples boundaries jaret, by telling them about your issues like this. I think they can feel this and that is why they stay away from you.

It's easy to not have a real sense of boundaries, when you have had yours trampled over so often without any regard for your reality.

Learning to protect your own boundaries and be more aware of other peoples will help you a lot I think. It's hard if you don't know how to though, or who to go to in order to learn how to.

I think in time you will find people that you can talk about it too. Just hang in there and do not give up. Big hugs.

Yes, I managed to find a couple of people who I can talk about stuff with, who are friends, and as long as I make sure I mix it up a bit, so I'm not always talking about my issues, we can both have a balanced relationship.

 

[Philippa]

Philippa, Thank you so much for being here. I am feeling good.

Yes, Class coordinator does sound bit strict. So I get bit backward for my own safety. I think 10 times before saying something to her.

That another madam can have lots of work by her side and she may not be able to pay attention to me. You helped me to think positively and look at brighter side.

Maybe next time just try and be briefer when you mention what your issues are, or not say exactly what they are, but more just generalize it...like, say you are having a bit of trouble with anxiety that is causing some physical problems for you, and leave it at that. There is no need to discuss in depth with people who really aren't interested in going in depth with you about your issues.

 

[Tanishq]

Learning to protect your own boundaries and be more aware of other peoples will help you a lot I think. It's hard if you don't know how to though, or who to go to in order to learn how to.

Yes, I don't know. I don't understand that it is time to draw a line and make some boundaries.

Maybe next time just try and be briefer when you mention what your issues are, or not say exactly what they are, but more just generalize it...

I will keep this in mind.

You know what frustrates me. They will ask one more question further to know what was root of anxiety and explain me. Then they will push me away. Really weird people. I can't believe now a days universities don't have understanding professors.

 

[Philippa]

You know what frustrates me. They will ask one more question further to know what was root of anxiety and explain me. Then they will push me away. Really weird people. I can't believe now a days universities don't have understanding professors.

That does sound weird. It sounds like they are actually being your counsellors here, when it isn't really their position to be?

Maybe it is not so much what you are telling them, but the energy they are getting from you when you do tell them, that pushes them away? They might be able to sense that you are needy, and this isn't well received by most people in society.

 

[Tanishq]

They might be able to sense that you are needy, and this isn't well received by most people in society.

I understand that.

I swear once I get over this physical problem. I will never forget this all I had to face.

 

[Whitneys story]

Societal people tend to be ignorant of anyone but themselves. Giving too much information takes away from their self generated importance.

It is a two edged sword. We tend to seek validation from those who are incapable. JMHO but I find the 5 second rule helps. What is the question really asking? What is the simplest answer one can give. Whitney