What do they panic about especially when it's doing something supposedly enjoyable liking going on a walk with someone you supposedly like? Genuine question.
Hi. I haven't posted for some time but have kept on reading. The actions of your guy (making a plan, being excited about it, then panicking and cancelling) are identical to the way my sufferer used to behave. He did it over and over again until it eventually became too stressful for him and he ghosted me completely. It sucks to be on the receiving end . But I think it's fairly common. Sorry you're going through it. It's not great. Take care of yourself.
Hiya. Sometimes the idea of doing something is really appealing and there is good intentions about doing it. But due to mental illness when the time comes "we" just can't face it. It could be due to any number of reasons. Like a stressor or trigger causing panic and anxiety. Maybe not knowing what we'll say or talk about because we have to much shit on our minds. It's a bummer but don't take it personally, it's about "us" not you.
To add: He said he was really excited about the hike, which just makes this even more confusing :/
…don’t plan too far in advance.
Yep -- that's me sometimes.He wanted to go. He made the plans to go. He thought about it. Panicked. Cancelled.
That this is ptsd in actionAlso in a world that preaches looking at someone's actions over their words, how else should I take this?
You can’t divorce PTSD from the person… which seems to be the hardest thing for most supporters to wrap their heads around.Even though I know it's impossible to say for sure, could any of this be due to PTSD? It just doesn't really make sense to me.