My Granddaughter Was Lying To Me The Truth Came Out.

[Recovery4Me]

The partial 'truth' is you chose to act. It is good to protect and defend decency. If your relationship changed with your family perhaps it is because they now know you are not a silent partner to appearance of child abuse. You have a boundary...it cost sometimes to do the right thing. ((((hugs)))

Whether or not that appearance of child abuse is truth...that is an separate matter, and will come out in time by your daughter initiating therapy for your granddaughter. After all, nothing happened, right? So I am sure your daughter has nothing to fear but just has massive concern for your granddaughter receiving help.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you @Recovery4Me it sounds like things are going along smoothly for them right now. Which I am so happy about and the truth did come out and it did teach my daughter that I will take steps to do something about untowards behavior toward the girls. I appreciate what you said so much.

 

[IrisL]

Sorry to ask that... But are you 100% sure her denial is the truth?

My guess she can be scared... Or because of the action ... To you wouldn't see you granddaughter made her say she lied...

In a bigger picture for her you are the only ally and protection.

And if after these happenings because of your correct and right action you can't see her... That's seems there is an issue which had been covered up carefully.
A mother would know you didn't want to do any harm you just wanted to protect your grandchild.if I would be the mum - obviously I would be pissed of with my daughter, but not with you.
Because your action showed you care and protect the daughter even if the threat is inside of the family.
I would know your intention is good.

Other than that action for me applies there is a real problem.

And 1st action to send her to psycho therapy, if there is nothing and the things are really lie - still there is something which caused her lying...
Is have to be catch at the beginning to she can be safe and she can be healed, rebuild.
Something caused the distortion.

The other way your grandchild is an evil...which I doubt it.


Don't feel guilty - they should be guilty to the child never came to them - she run away to you

Her choice must have a reason.

 

[Recovery4Me]

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The other way your grandchild is an evil...which I doubt it.

With you on your awesome thoughts and post ...until this above red flag portion.
Black and white thinking is a little wobbly for solid mental health. (((hugs))) if you accept.

PS...I had to modify my own post because it is easy to fall into!;)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am just really confused right now. I know the real truth will come out no matter what length of time it takes and thanks R4M

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Well I went to my first therapy session today and my therapist told me that I did all of the right things and that my heart was in the right place and I did nothing wrong.

I was not prepared to hear this at all. I am on cloud nine, because I have been beating the shit our of myself. She also told me that my daughter is manipulating me right now.

She also told me that she wishes more people were like me. I feel such so much better and I want to thank all of you personally for your kind support to me. I got so confused and mixed up and bewildered.

When my granddaughter was in the shelter she called child protective services and they are doing an investigation on my daughter because the girls have been sleeping on tiny couches for the past five months and my daughter has to get them each a bed and a dresser for the both of them.

I feel like a ton of garbage has been lifted off of my shoulders and I will waste no more time beating myself up anymore. This knowledge changes so many things for me.

You all were saying the exact same thing to me but my daughters last words to me cut me so deep and I self doubted and went downhill.

Things will be different between my daughter and myself. I am finally on to her mind games and game over check mate!

 

[Recovery4Me]

Bravo Giz!!!! Bravo! :tup: