joeylittle
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@AnnieMae - you've been given lots of ideas of tangible things you could try. Things you could actually do. But you insist on feeling sorry for yourself.
Now, maybe that's only something happening here, on the site. Maybe we only see you in your lowest moments, and there are also times you aren't this low.
If that's true - then I'm going to challenge you to try balancing your thinking. Because right now, you are only reinforcing the distorted beliefs you have.
And, you change your behaviors. Invest your time in doing things that will help move you forward. Doing self-care. And stop spending time re-treading over trauma-based thinking.
Now, here's another true thing: I am stuck in a loop right now too. Really, seriously stuck. I am trying different ways to motivate myself up and out of this extremely deep depression I'm in. So far, I haven't found the right combination of things that will get me over this hump.
But I can acknowledge I'm trying, because it's true - I am. And logically - that means I'm not entirely stuck. It feels like it. But it's not actually true. I'm nearly at a standstill, sure - but here I am, writing to you.
Why? Because I need to remember all this shit I'm telling YOU to do. Challenging you to try? That's helping me challenge myself to keep trying.
Have you read any other threads on this forum? Try it sometime. We are here because people like us - people with PTSD - we need to talk with each other. It's part of how we can heal. But you can't engage in that process if you don't read some threads and get interested in some other people, here. Try giving support.
Last thing: Human beings are much more resilient than we give ourselves credit for. And know what? You're not the exception to that rule. Sorry. - you're not special that way.
You're just as resilient as the rest of us.
So start trying.
What's the smallest thing you can do today to take care of yourself? Mine is going to be, take a shower. Yesterday? It was brush my hair. And while I do that small thing, I remind myself that I'm making a choice to take care of myself, because I am worthy of that care.
Do I fully believe that I'm worthy of it? Hell no. But I can believe it 10 percent, or 20 percent...eventually, I'll believe it much more - if I keep doing it.
That's how it works.
Now, maybe that's only something happening here, on the site. Maybe we only see you in your lowest moments, and there are also times you aren't this low.
If that's true - then I'm going to challenge you to try balancing your thinking. Because right now, you are only reinforcing the distorted beliefs you have.
You change your thought patterns. Literally. You deliberately re-write your self-destructive thoughts. Does it work overnight? No. But it does work.Well, how do you feel differently? That is what I need to do
And, you change your behaviors. Invest your time in doing things that will help move you forward. Doing self-care. And stop spending time re-treading over trauma-based thinking.
No one can help you if you refuse to help yourself.Not one person can help with anything.
Now, here's another true thing: I am stuck in a loop right now too. Really, seriously stuck. I am trying different ways to motivate myself up and out of this extremely deep depression I'm in. So far, I haven't found the right combination of things that will get me over this hump.
But I can acknowledge I'm trying, because it's true - I am. And logically - that means I'm not entirely stuck. It feels like it. But it's not actually true. I'm nearly at a standstill, sure - but here I am, writing to you.
Why? Because I need to remember all this shit I'm telling YOU to do. Challenging you to try? That's helping me challenge myself to keep trying.
Have you read any other threads on this forum? Try it sometime. We are here because people like us - people with PTSD - we need to talk with each other. It's part of how we can heal. But you can't engage in that process if you don't read some threads and get interested in some other people, here. Try giving support.
Last thing: Human beings are much more resilient than we give ourselves credit for. And know what? You're not the exception to that rule. Sorry. - you're not special that way.
You're just as resilient as the rest of us.
So start trying.
What's the smallest thing you can do today to take care of yourself? Mine is going to be, take a shower. Yesterday? It was brush my hair. And while I do that small thing, I remind myself that I'm making a choice to take care of myself, because I am worthy of that care.
Do I fully believe that I'm worthy of it? Hell no. But I can believe it 10 percent, or 20 percent...eventually, I'll believe it much more - if I keep doing it.
That's how it works.