Changing4Best I am so sorry. This is such bullshit with diagnosis. There needs to be more help. My MIL shouts out anger to others and they don't react like I do. I try not to react, but I do internally. She has always treated others like gold and me like crap.
Today my husband challenged me on my thinking and after a lot of soul surching, I think I am not capable of being the person that takes her to dr appointments and such. In the past, she has hit me with cane and been very sassy, but I know she is old and I have accepted it.
However, we have this history of her trying for force her will on me, even when she didn't have dementia. The worst was when she got my 3 yr old drunk with spiked fruit salad, and my daughter ended up with a learning disability. I had put this in the back of my mind....but its there...and I would rather not take her to dr. appointments or anything else for that matter. Tomorrow I will go and meet the home health person. I told my husband that after that, he needs to hire her care.
Fact is, I didn't like her when she was 60, and I dont like her at 92. I may sound like a cold bitch, but I cant help it. She worked to split up our marriage and we did spend over 10 yrs separated, with my husband living with her and at her beckoning call. She was the happiest then.
I dont need a man but cant live in the house we own without help. Im disgusted. Every chance she has, she shows him her vagina and colostomy bag and I dont think this is normal even in elderly. I need to step out of this.